Kuthana ndi zopingazo: bwanji kuti musapangitse zolakwa zambiri pa njira yopita ku cholinga

Gwirizanani, kangati paulendo wopita ku cholinga chomwe tikuchifuna, timayamba kukayikira, mantha, chidziwitso. Kodi mwasankha njira yoyenera? Musalakwe? Kapena mwinamwake kunali koyenera kusiya zonse ndi kupita ndi kutuluka? Mwinamwake, aliyense wa ife anadzifunsa tokha mafunso awa. Kwenikweni, ndi zophweka kukhala munthu wodzipereka ndi wodalirika: chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kuthana ndi zopinga zomwe zili mkati mwathu ndipo nthawi ndi nthawi zimakulepheretsani kuzindikira maloto anu okondedwa.

Kukaikira

Ichi ndicho chovuta chachikulu. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika pamaso pa munthu yemwe amangopanga njira yoyamba kupita kwa osadziwika, chinachake chimene sakudziwa. Koma zimakhalanso kuti ndi vuto lalikulu lomwe limakhalapo komanso likudziwa anthu omwe sali tsiku loyamba kugwira ntchito yomwe ilipo kale ndipo atha kale kupambana mu gawo lino. Kukaikira kumatha kuthetsa munthu woyesedwa, osatchula apainiya. Kodi liti liti? Kawirikawiri pakatikatikati, pamene pali kale kale, komabe pakadali patali. Zifukwa ndizo kutopa, kusasamala, maganizo a ena.

Kuti musachoke pamsewu, muyenera kukhala ndi luso logonjetsa chovuta. Choyamba, kambiranani ndi anthu omwe apita motere, ndipo adachita bwino ndikukwaniritsa zotsatira zake. Chachiwiri, sankhani udindo wanu - wothandizira amene angathandize, kuphunzitsa, kulangiza. Chachitatu, nthawi zambiri kumbukirani kupambana kwanu koyamba ndipo dziphunzitseni nokha mu chidaliro kuti nthawi ino mudzapambana.

Mantha

Lingaliro lalikulu ndi tanthawuzo la chovuta ichi likhoza kufotokozedwa motere: "Nanga bwanji ngati ndikhalabe pamalo osweka?" Zinthu zatsopanozi zimawopsetsa, makamaka ngati palibe amene akuthandiza, sizithandiza. Chilichonse chimapwetekedwa ngati ena ayamba kuopseza, kunyalanyaza ndi kunyoza za izi. Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata wina anabweretsa mtsikana kunyumba yemwe ankamukonda, koma, mwatsoka, sakonda achibale. Iwo, pokhala odzikonda, anthu opanda nzeru, amaika chidziwitso: "Ife kapena iye." Chabwino, ndingathe bwanji kuchita mantha? Makolo onse miyoyo yawo yayandikira, iwo anawuka, amaphunzitsa malingaliro-malingaliro. Kodi mungatani kuti musamakhulupirire?

Mungathe. Ndipo ngakhale zofunikira. Mu mkhalidwe umenewu, kuthana ndi zopinga - mantha a kusintha ndi mantha a makolo okhumudwitsa - sizili zovuta. Zokwanira kukumbukira kuti mumasankha tsogolo lanu, kumanga moyo. Ena sangakonde, ena akhoza kukhala okwiya. Simudzasangalatsa aliyense. Choncho, pitirizani kutsatira ndondomekoyi, ngakhale mutapereka kanthu.

Makhalidwe

Chovuta ichi chimachitika panthawi ina. Tiye tizinena kuti zonse zakhala zikuchitika - mwakhala mukupita patsogolo kwambiri, tsopano palibe msewu wobwerera. Koma pano ndi chifukwa chake pazifukwa zina ndikufuna kubwezeretsa chirichonse: chatsopano - komabe chosasangalatsa, wakale - wodziwika ndi wokondedwa. Pano lamulo la kusungirako ntchito ndi zokolola zimagwira ntchito: mumagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zochepa, nthawi, maganizo, chidziwitso pa zinthu zowonongeka. Inde, n'zosavuta kuti zinthu zichitike pa mabaki. Koma kodi ndizofunika? Ayi, si choncho. Chizolowezicho si chifukwa. Momwe zidzakhalira zonyansa: yesetsani kwambiri ndikukhala amantha, kudzipatulira, kunyozedwa pamaso pa anthu ena, koma choyamba musanayambe nokha.

Funsani momwe mwamsanga mungagonjetse zopinga mu nkhaniyi? Kudzinyenga nokha pa mphuno kuti cholinga chimene mukupita ndi chofunikira kwa inu. Sizowoneka pachabe zomwe munakonza, kukhazikitsa ndondomeko yothandizira, kufunafuna chithandizo, ndi kusonkhanitsa zinthu. Musabwerere pansi: chochita chotero sichimajambula munthu, m'malo mwake, chimapangitsa ena kukhala ofooka ndi osapota. Ndipo komabe_pangani chizolowezi chosiyana mwa inu nokha: nthawizonse mukwaniritse ntchito zowika. Mu moyo, ndiwothandiza kwambiri.

Kusayamika kwa anthu

Anthu amanyoza ndikutsutsa zochita zanu pa zifukwa zingapo: iwo ali ndi nsanje, samvetsetsa changu chanu, ngati kuti akunena miseche kapena atsekereredwa ndi zolakwika. "N'chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kukwatiwa?" - akufuula amayi kwa mwana wamkazi wa mwana wake wamkazi. - Choyamba muyenera kuphunzira, kupanga ntchito, kupanga ndalama. " Mikangano ikuwoneka kuti ndi yolondola ndi yoyenera. Koma ndani akufunikira? Iye? Ndiye mumuloleni iye akhale moyo molingana ndi chitsanzo ichi. Njira yanu ikhoza kukhala yosiyana ndi njira yomwe achibale anu achifundo adakokera m'maganizo anu. Musawope kuthetsa zopinga zomwe zili mwa iwo: Simukulipira ngongole kwa wina aliyense, ndinu munthu, ndipo muli ndi malamulo anu a masewerawo. Ngakhale munthu atapunthwa, ndi kulakwitsa kwake kokha, chifukwa cha zomwe amaphunzira ndi kulandira zofunikira.

Mayendedwe anu mumkhalidwe uwu ndi osavuta. Musalengeze zolinga zanu ndi ndondomeko zanu, kugawana nawo okha ndi omwe amamvetsa ndikukuthandizani. Mvetserani kwa onse, mwamtendere nod, koma chitani njira yanu. Sikoyenera kukangana - zimangotengera mphamvu zanu ndipo zimakhudza psyche. Kuphunzira kuthana ndi zopinga sikovuta, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala olimbitsa ndi kutsimikizika mu zolinga zanu.

Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?

Si chinsinsi kuti nzeru zimatilepheretsa kuthana ndi zopinga zilizonse. Ndikofunikira kuyamba nkhani yofunika, pamene ayamba kung'ung'udza m'makutu ake: "Ndizovuta kwambiri." Poyamba timasiya kukayikira, koma pang'onopang'ono changucho chimayamba kuzizira, kupereka njira yowonongeka ndi yozizira kuyang'ana pa zinthu. Motero, mkati mwathu timatha kutsutsana, zomwe zimayambitsa zokhumudwitsa zambiri ndi zolephera. Osadandaula, kulimbana ndi zosavuta.

Choyamba, kungodziwa kuti kulipo. Inde, tsopano sitidziwa njira zothetsera chikhumbo. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti kulibe. Onetsetsani kuti pali njira ndi njira. Limbikitsani mphamvu zanu zonse ndi chidwi chanu pa maloto anu okondedwa, osati pa njira - muzomwe mukuchita nawo. Khalani omasuka, olimbikira - ndipo chiyembekezo chidzakula, mudzadabwa nokha kuti simunazindikire zinthu zoonekeratu. Malangizo aakulu - khulupirirani chilichonse, ngakhale zozizwa zosatheka. Ndiyeno iwo sadzakusungani inu kuyembekezera.

Malangizo ena ochepa

Kutsutsana kwa mkati kumakhala ndi chinthu chimodzi. Kugonjera ku goli la malingaliro, nthawi zambiri timalowetsa maloto athu ndi otsutsa - kusowa kwa chilakolako. Potero, malingaliro athu sali otsogolera osati ku cholinga, koma kunthabwala. Ndipo ichi ndi chiyambi cha zolephera zonse. Osati kuzindikira chinyengo, ife tikupitirizabe kukhala, mukugwiritsa ntchito fyuluta yamphamvu ya kutsutsana ndi mantha. Kuchotseratu ndipo potero ndikugonjetsa zopinga kungakhale ndikugwirizana: zolinga zathu, njira za kuganiza ndi khalidwe. Kupeza mgwirizano wotere ndikofunikira pakufufuza ndikugwirizanitsa ntchito zofunikira.

Mwa njira, chizindikiro chofunikira chotsatira ndikumverera kwathu. Ndiwo kayendetsedwe ka kayendedwe ka madzi: ngati tili owuziridwa, okondwa - ndiye kuti timakhalabe njira yoyenera, pamene tili mu chisokonezo, timakhala oda nkhaŵa - tilibe. Musanyalanyaze kumverera kwanu, mvetserani kwa iwo. Zifukwa zomwe zimagwirizana ndizofunikira, koma nthawi zambiri iwo akulakwitsa, akupereka njira yodziwika bwino yodziwa bwino. Kuti mumve mtima wanu ndikuchita zomwe zikukuuzani ndi theka la kupambana.