Ndikufuna kukonda ndi kukondedwa ... Zomwe ndingakwanitse pokwaniritsa cholinga

Nchiyani chimapangitsa munthu kukhala wosangalala ndikukulolani kuti mukhale ogwirizana ndi inu nokha? Mwina aliyense adzayankha funsoli mwa njira yawo. Aliyense ali ndi malingaliro ake ndi zikhumbo zake, koma mwamtheradi aliyense adzatha kutsimikizira kuti chikondi ndi chimodzi mwa zipilala zazikulu za moyo wathu. Ndife zolengedwa za anthu ndipo timayesetsa kupeza chithandizo ndi kumvetsetsa, chikondi ndi kudzipereka. Ndipo ambiri amakhulupirira kuti moyo umalengedwa kotero kuti tithandizire ndi kukwaniritsa zofuna za anthu apafupi. Koma kwenikweni, tonse ndife osiyana ndi munthu aliyense. Munthu analengedwa kuti akhale ndi moyo wosangalala, umene poyamba, ayenera kudziyesa yekha! Zoonadi, mtsikana aliyense amalowerera m'maloto ake ndikuwonekera mobwerezabwereza ngati matsulo: "Ndikufuna ndikukondedwa"!

Kusungulumwa: chowonadi kapena chowonetseratu

Amayi ambiri amatsanzira zochitika pamoyo ndikuwona zonse zili mdima. Podziyerekezera okha ndi akazi ena, amayamba "kuyimba" makompyuta ndikukhala ndi mantha. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse munthu amawoneka wosangalala komanso wokongola. Ndipo kodi zilidi choncho? Iwe sungakhoze kuweruza munthu popanda kumudziwa iye. Msungwanayo ayamba kuyesa kuyandikira kwa amuna kapena akazi ndipo nthawi zina akhoza kulephera. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti zawonongedwa.

Vuto ndilolumikizana ndi mkhalidwe - chilakolako champhamvu cha cholinga ndi kulephera kuthana ndi kukhumudwa kwakukulu. Musamangidwe, mumayenera kumvetsetsa nokha. Kodi mwakonzeka kuchita chiyani, kuti moyo wanu "uyende" pamsewu wina? Ndikofunika kuyamba kusintha khalidwe lachizolowezi. Kodi izi zimathandiza bwanji? Yankho lake ndi lodziwikiratu - liwu lakuti "Ndifuna kukonda ndi kukondedwa" lidzatha kukhala cholinga chosasinthika kwa inu!

Dzikondeni nokha

Makhalidwe athu ali ndi zidutswa zikwi zambiri, zomwe zimakhudza moyo wathu, maganizo athu ndi ena. Ndipo ngati mkazi adamuwuza kale kuti sali woyenera chikondi, izi zimakhudza moyo wake wonse. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti chikondi ndi kusonyeza kuti munthu ali ndi umoyo wabwino. Ndiko kuti, malingaliro onse ali mkati mwathu. Ndipo tikakumana ndi munthu woyenera, timamuuza zakukhosi kwathu, zomwe poyamba tinkazidzimvera tokha. Ndipo apa pali yankho - ngati simunadzipange nokha, kodi mungathe kumverera wina? Ayi ndithu! Munthu yemwe sadziwa zambiri komanso "wokhumudwa" sangathe kukopa wina. Pambuyo pake, munthu amene mumamukonda nayenso akufunafuna munthu amene angamukhulupirire. Ndipo kodi mayi yemwe sadzimadzikonda yekha, samayamikira makhalidwe ake, angamukope? Muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire zakukhosi kwanu komanso chikondi chanu chokhumudwitsa ndikukhumudwitsa munthu amene amakhala mkati mwako. Lolani nokha kukhala omasuka ndi omasuka kwa atsopano ndi osadziwika. Dziwani moyo wanu, ndiyeno mawu akuti "Ndikufuna chikondi ndikukondedwa" sakhala okhutira, koma adzakhala ndi moyo watsopano wodala.

Zida Zowongoka

Kawirikawiri, atsikanawo amapanga zolephera m'tsogolo. Amakhulupirira kuti sali oyenerera chisomo chotero monga chikondi, kudzipereka. Amayi amayamba kumva kuti akuvutika ndi zochitika komanso zoipa. Kupanga ubale wapamtima, nthawizonse amadzifunsa funso ngati ali oyenera osankhidwa awo? Kodi iwo angapeze chinachake, kapena kodi icho chidzalephera kachiwiri?

Kwa akazi oterewa ndi amuna omwe amadzimvera okha, ayamba kuchita nawo monga momwe amachitira ndi ozunzidwa, amadzipangitsa okha kuchita nkhanza ndi kusakhulupirika. Ndipotu, amayenera kutero, ngati iye mwiniyo avomereza zochitika zoterezo. Ndipo pamene mukudzibwereza nokha: "Ndikufuna kukondedwa" - inu simumakhulupirira. Sinthani maganizo pa moyo, musamamvere chisoni "mtsikana" mkati mwako. Wodzitama kuti ndiwe wapadera ndipo sungatheke. Ndipo khalidwe ili lokha limakupangitsani kukongola kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Kuopa ululu ndi kukhumudwa kwatsopano

Aliyense mu moyo ali ndi zolephera ndi zokhumudwitsa, koma wina akhoza "kudzuka" ndikupitirira, ndipo wina amadyetsa ululu tsiku ndi tsiku. Pali sewero lonse m'moyo, msungwanayo nthawi zonse amapukutura momwe adanyengedwa. Pamapeto pake, akuyamba kudzudzula yekha! Kuyang'ana zomwe zimayambitsa kusiyana, akuyamba kuopa kuti apeze mavuto atsopano pamoyo wake. Zomwe zikuchitikazi zimabweretsa kuwona kuti mayiyo akuopa kulola munthu watsopano mu mtima mwake.

Zikuwoneka kuti mwa njira imeneyi amadziteteza ku zowawa. Kukayikira kumapambana ndikugonjetsa chifuniro, mkazi akhoza kuyamba kukumana ndi mnyamata, koma pa nthawi yoyamba amathawa ndi kubisala mu "chipolopolo" chake. Mukudziuza nokha kuti: "Ndikufuna wokondedwa kukhala pafupi," koma mukuyang'ana chifukwa chomunamizira kuti akunena zabodza. Muzochitika zotero ndikofunikira kukhululukira munthu amene wakukhumudwitsani inu nokha. Musakwiyire ndi kukwiya. Dziko lapansi ndi lopanda ungwiro, monga anthu omwe akuzungulirani. Kotero, mwinamwake asiye kupita kunja kwa nyumbayo? Lolani nokha kukhala ndi moyo, yambani kulankhula zambiri ndi kufotokoza malingaliro anu poyera.

Musachedwe

Atsikana ambiri amangokhalira kuopa kusungulumwa. Amawopa kuti asakhale ndi nthawi yokhala nayo yokhayo ndi kuyamba kumuwona mwa woimira aliyense yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi. Kukhumudwa kotereku kumapangitsa kuti maonekedwe awo aziwoneka mwaukali. Chilankhulo chake ndi mawu akuti "Ndimakonda ndikukondedwa kuno komanso pakalipano." Mkazi akufunafuna kupeza mwamuna mwanjira iliyonse. Zikuwoneka kuti ngati atachoka, adzakhalabe kwamuyaya.

Zomwe zikuchitikazi zimabweretsa kulamulira kwathunthu osankhidwa. Zokambirana nthawi zonse za maubwenzi, kukangana pa chirichonse. Zoonadi, khalidweli limakankhira amuna, safuna kumvera ndipo safuna kuti "agonjetsedwe". Otsitsila amaganiza kuti mwamukonzeratu zonse, ndipo izi sizilandiridwa. Aliyense ayenera kusankha. Mwachibadwidwe, chiyanjano choterocho chidzapangitsa kuwonongeka. Ziribe kanthu kuti izi zingakhale zopanda phindu bwanji, m'pofunika kuthetsa vutoli, mpaka kufika pamasewero ena. Khalani wodziimira ndi wodziimira. Ndi akazi omwe ali amanyazi pang'ono, omwe amakopeka ndi amuna.

Kodi mwakonzeka kukonda?

Nthawi zina pali vuto lomwe msungwanayo akufuna kwambiri maubwenzi, amalota za kusankha kwake, ndipo pankhani ya kukondana kwenikweni, amamvetsetsa kuti sadakonzekere panobe. Fufuzani izi, kodi mungasinthe moyo wanu, kuvomereza munthu wina mmenemo? Mvetserani nokha momwe mudzamvera komanso ngati mungathe kusonkhana chifukwa cha wokondedwa wanu. Ubale - uwu ndi mgwirizano wovuta pakati pa anthu awiri, ndi kukwaniritsa mgwirizano ndi kumvetsetsa kungathe kupyolera mu ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku komanso lopweteka. Ngati simukufuna kuchotsa zovuta mkati ndi mantha, mungatani kuti mukhale ndi ubale weniweni womwe mudzasangalale nawo? Choncho dzipangire nokha ngati mau akuti "Ndifuna kukonda ndi kukondedwa" adzakhala choonadi chenichenicho cha moyo kapena kukhala mu maloto.

Kuyesera chikondi ndi malingaliro atsopano ndi zachilengedwe komanso zokongola. Chikondi chimatibweretsera ife chisangalalo ndi chitetezo, chimapereka chiyanjano ndi dziko lozungulira ndipo chimatikakamiza kuchita zabwino. Kotero bwanji osadzithandiza nokha ndikuyesera kutaya mantha ndi mantha osafunikira? Zimadziwika kuti kusagwirizana sikutitsogolera ku chirichonse. Zindikirani maloto anu - ndipo simukusowa maloto ndikubwereza mu malingaliro anu: "Ndikufuna kukhumba ndi okondedwa", mumakhala owonadi!