Momwe mungalekerere kudzimvera chisoni ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo: luso la akatswiri

Pali anthu omwe dziko lonse lapansi liri ndi imvi ndikumvetsa chisoni, iwo ali achisoni, amadandaula komanso osakhutira. Palibe amene akufuna kulankhulana ndi whiners - amapewa kukumana nawo, samayankha maitanidwe awo, ndipo mauthenga amanyalanyazidwa. Wina wolimba mtima komanso wolunjika adzati kwa munthu wotere: "Ingosiya kudzimvera chisoni, zonse zidzasintha, ndipo anthu adzakufikira." Koma si zophweka kuchita ngati kunena. Kuti tithandize omwe ali otayika mu nyanja yachisoni ndi chisoni, tiyeni tizimvetsetsa momwe izi zimakhalira, kumene zimachokera, zomwe zimatsogolera, momwe mungalekere kudzimvera chisoni nokha ndi kuyamba moyo wokhutira mokwanira.

Zimayambitsa

Zifukwa za zovuta ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi maganizo ndizo zambiri. Nazi zomwe zimafala kwambiri:

• Nsanje. Poyang'ana zopambana ndi zopindulitsa za ena, nthawi zambiri anthu amadabwa chifukwa chake izi sizikuchitika kwa iwo. Kwa ena, kuona izi kumapangitsa kuti achitepo kanthu, pamene ena amangomvera chifundo chifukwa chakuti moyo ndi wosalungama.
• Ulesi. Kawirikawiri, palibe chabwino chomwe chimakhalapo pa moyo wa munthu chifukwa chakuti ndi waulesi kwambiri kuti achite chirichonse, kuchita zochepa kuti akwaniritse cholinga. Ndikufuna kuti zonse zichitike paokha. Ndipo pamene izi sizichitika, dziko lonse lapansi ndilo chifukwa cha izi, ndipo munthuyo mwiniwakeyo sakhala wosangalala kuti aliyense woyandikana naye, kuphatikizapo mwiniwake, ayenera kumudandaula ndi kumumvera chisoni.
• Chenjerani ndi chikondi. Ambiri amasokoneza malingaliro awiriwa ndipo sapeza kanthu kabwino kuposa, mwachitsanzo, kuwonetsa chidwi cha chikondi kapena chifundo pogwiritsa ntchito zodandaula ndi banal akudandaula kuti: "Ndatopa, ndimvetse chisoni," "palibe amene amandikonda, kundikumbatira", ndi zina zotero. Gawo lachiwiri nthawi zina limakhala lopweteka chifukwa chodzidandaula nthawi zonse, ubale uli wosweka, ndiyeno kudzikweza kumapita kumalo atsopano: "Ndine wosasangalala, ndinakuuzani kuti palibe amene angandikonde" ndipo chisoni chachikulu ndi kupweteka kumayamba.

Mndandanda uwu siwukwanira, koma, monga lamulo, zifukwa zina zambiri za kufufuza mosamalitsa zachepetsedwa kukhala chimodzi mwa mfundo zomwe tafotokozazi.

Zotsatira

Nchiyani chimachitika kwa iwo omwe nthawi zambiri komanso odzikonda amadzimvera chisoni? Miyoyo yawo ndi yamvetsa chisoni komanso yowopsya, nthawi zambiri amakhala okha kapena iwo amawononga maubwenzi onse ndi maubwenzi awo, kawirikawiri samapindula pa ntchito kapena bizinesi.

Mwamwayi, kudzidzimvera chisoni nokha ndi moyo wanu nthawi zambiri sikungowonjezera mavuto aakulu a maganizo ndi kupsinjika maganizo. Chodabwitsa ichi chingakhudze thanzi la munthu:

• Kupanikizika kwa magazi. Kuchokera mu nthawi yachisokonezo ndi kukhumudwa nthawi zonse, kuthamanga kwa magazi kungakwere kapena kugwa (malingana ndi maonekedwe a thupi) ndipo pamapeto pake kumayambitsa matenda a sitiroko ndi matenda ena aakulu.
• Mtima wamtima. Pogwiritsa ntchito zifukwa zomwezo, kutentha kumawonjezeka, kenako kumachepetsanso, zomwe zimasokoneza ntchito yoyenera ya galimoto yaikulu ya zamoyo. Zotsatira: kuvutika kwa mtima, kulephera kwa mtima, ndi zina zotero.
• Tsamba la m'mimba. Ambiri amawamvera chisoni ndi zakudya zokoma, ufa kapena mafuta owonjezera, pamene ena amalephera kudya ndipo amavutika ndi nsanje. Zotsatira zake - mavuto olemera, matenda osiyanasiyana a chiwindi, chiwindi, impso ndi zina zotero.

Ndipo matenda omwe athandizidwa chifukwa chodzipweteka nthawizonse mwa kudzimvera chisoni amachititsa ngakhale kumverera komweko, ndipo zonse zimayambiranso ndipo zimaipiraipira. Pofuna kuthyola bwalo ili loopsya, palibe chabwino kuposa kusiya kudzimvera chisoni.

Siyani Kuwala

Kuti mumvetse ngati chomwe chimayambitsa mavuto onse m'moyo ndi kudzimvera chisoni, ndikwanira kuyankha mafunso ochepa:

• Kodi mayesero onsewa ndi masautso omwe amagwa pamutu pawo akuyenera?
• Kodi moyo uli wolungama ndipo umapatsa mwayi aliyense wopambana?
• Mawa chirichonse chidzasintha ndipo dziko lidzakhala bwinoko?
• Palibe amene ali ndi mlandu pa zomwe zikuchitika?
• Zakale zakale ndi zovuta zakhala zikuiwalika ndipo palibe amene amawakumbukiranso?
• Kodi anthu ozungulira vutoli ndi ovuta kwambiri?

Ngati mafunso ochepa apatsidwa yankho lolakwika, ndiye kuti mwamsanga muzidziuza nokha kuti "imani" ndikusankha momwe mungalekerere kudzidandaulira nokha. Kodi pali kukayikira kulikonse? Kenaka tibwererenso mfundo zokhudzana ndi zotsatira zake ndipo tikambiranso mosamala.

Chiyambi chabwino

Momwe mungalekerere kudzimvera chisoni? Ndikofunika kuyamba kumvetsa zomwe zimayambitsa kumverera. Kwa ichi pali njira yabwino kwambiri:

Khwerero 1. Kupuma pantchito. Palibe amene ayenera kukhala paliponse - opanda banja, opanda mabwenzi, osadziŵika, osadutsa. Mukhoza kutseka nyumba zonse, mukhoza kupita kuchilengedwe kapena ku paki yaing'ono. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kusungulumwa kwathunthu.

Gawo 2. Chotsani zokhumudwitsa zonse. Ngati tsitsi lotsekemera limasokoneza, ndiye kuti liyenera kusonkhanitsidwa mumtolo kapena mchira. Ngati ntchentche kapena udzudzu umakhala pafupi ndi khutu lanu, muyenera kupeza malo ena kapena kutulutsa tizilombo. Foni yam'manja imayenera kutsekedwa kwa kanthawi, ndipo pulogalamuyo ikhoza kuthetsedwa.

Gawo 3. Khalani pansi. Pano aliyense ali ndi njira zake: kumwa zakumwa za tiyi kapena galasi la vinyo wofiira wolimba, dzipangire nokha minofu kapena kuwerengera khumi. Ndikofunika kukwaniritsa chikhalidwe cha bata ndi mtendere.

Khwerero 4. Pamene dziko lofunidwa likufikira ndipo palibe chimene chikulepheretsa, muyenera kupeza pepala losalembera ndi pensulo. Kenaka pagawani pepalayi mu magawo awiri ndipo muyambe kulembera pansi pamzere umodzi zinthu izi, zochitika ndi zochitika zomwe zimayambitsa kapena kudyetsa chisoni. Mwachitsanzo: kulemera kwakukulu, mphuno yayikulu, malipiro ochepa, kusowa kwa anzanu, chikondi chosasangalatsa , ndi zina zotero. Mndandanda uyenera kulembedwa, osati kufulumira, kuganizira za chinthu chilichonse ndi kusanthula mbali zonse za moyo.

Khwerero 5. Pambuyo panthawi yonse yachisoni ndi zisoni zomwe zili pamapepala, mukhoza kudzaza mndandanda wotsatira. Mosiyana ndi chinthu chilichonse, muyenera kufotokoza njira yothetsera. Muyenera kuchita izi musaganize za mwayi ndi chiyembekezo, kutanthauza pang'ono, ngati za wina. Mwachitsanzo:

• Kulemera kwakukulu - kuchepetsa kulemera kwa makilogalamu 20, kuchita masewera ndi kudya bwino;
• Phuno lalikulu - phunzirani momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito zodzoladzola bwino ndikusankha khungu lanu kuti mubisale mawonekedwe awa;
• Malipiro ochepa - kupeza ntchito ina;
• Kusasowa kwa anzanu - kukumana ndi anthu atsopano;
• Chikondi chosasangalatsa - kukhala wokongola ndi wokondwa ndipo amudandaule yemwe adataya.

Ngati pali zinthu zovuta pamndandanda, monga kutayika kwa wokondedwa kapena kukhumudwa kwa mwana, ndiye kuti pa chisankho choyenera muyenera kusonyeza ulendo wa katswiri (psychologist).

Mudzapeza mndandanda wodabwitsa wa mavuto ndi mayankho awo - izi zidzakhala malangizo a zochita zotchedwa "Momwe mungalephere kudzimvera chisoni ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo." Tsopano mukuyenera kuchita ndi kuchita zomwe mwalemba, ndikusunga mndandanda wokha kuti muwonetsetse zochotseratu zomwe zikuchitidwa ndi "chizindikiro chowonjezera" ndikuchotseni ndi mizere yolimba.

Njira iyi si yosavuta, koma kuti ikhale yophweka, pali malangizo angapo ochokera kwa akatswiri.

Malangizo 1

Momwe mungalekerere kudzimvera chisoni nokha ndi kulira pamene pali anthu amalingaliro omwe amamvetsa, kuwathandiza ndi kumvetsa chisoni? "Ofunira bwino" awa ayenera kuchotsedwa ku chilengedwe. Ngati simungathe kuchoka kwathunthu, mwachitsanzo, ngati ali achibale apamtima, ndiye kuti muyenera kuchepetsa kuyankhulana. Mukamachita zimenezi, sankhani nkhani zofanana pazokambirana: za nyengo, za chirengedwe, za mbalame, ndi zina zotero. Musalole kudzimvera chisoni. Pewani, monga akunena, "muphuphu".

Malangizo 2

Kodi mungatani kuti musamve chisoni chifukwa cha mwayi wophonya? Gwiritsani ntchito zatsopano! Mphindi iliyonse ya moyo wanu muyenera kudzipereka ku bizinesi yamtundu winawake. Pezani nokha makalasi chikwi ndi chimodzi. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti palibe nthawi yochitira chifundo ndi kulingalira pa zomwe zingakhale. Ntchito, kuvina, kumanga, kusoka, mazenera, kudzipereka, kukula maluwa pawindo ndi zambiri, zambiri. Choncho moyo udzakhala wokondweretsa komanso wofunika kwambiri, ndipo sipadzakhala nthawi yochitira chifundo ndikulira.

Malangizo 3

Ndikofunikira kuti munthu alankhule ndi mtundu wake, kotero ndi nthawi yokhala ndi anzanu atsopano ndikuyambiranso kugwirizana koyambirira. Chinthu chachikulu sichidandaula kwa wina aliyense, mwinamwake zoyesayesa zonse zidzakhala zopanda phindu. Kuti mukhale paubwenzi, maubwenzi apamtima kapena masewera okondweretsa, ndi bwino kusankha anthu omwe ali ndi moyo wokhala ndi moyo wabwino. Zili zovuta kupeza mndandanda wamakono lero: malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, mabungwe okondana, "zosiyana", ndi zina zotero.

Malangizo 4

Chimwemwe ndi kupambana zingakhoze kudzozedwa komanso chisoni ndi chisoni. Mmawa uliwonse, mwamsanga mutadzuka, ndipo madzulo onse, musanapite kudziko la maloto, onetsetsani kuti mubwereze nokha kuti: "Ndine wokondwa. Ndili bwino, ndipo tsiku latsopano lidzandibweretsera chipambano komanso mwayi. " Bwerezani izi ndizofunikira, ziribe kanthu kaya, ngakhale pali mavuto osakhalitsa kapena zosokoneza. Kufotokozera nokha ndi chida chofunikira kwambiri kwa iwo amene akudabwa momwe angasiye kudzimvera chisoni.

Pang'ono pang'ono mpumulo

Inde, mndandanda wazinthu izi sizamalizidwa. Aliyense angathe, ngati akufuna, apeze njira yake yokha, momwe angasiye kudzimvera chisoni ndi kuyamba kuchita. Ndipo ngati nthawi zina sitingathe kuzimvetsa, ndiye kuti mukhoza kudzipumitsa pang'ono. Mwachitsanzo, kamodzi pa mwezi, perekani nokha ora limodzi kapena awiri kuti muzindikire zomwe zinachitika pamoyo ndi kudzimvera chisoni. Koma lolani mpumulo uwu usathe osati ndi kupsinjika kwa nthawi yaitali, koma ndi mndandanda wa ntchito zatsopano kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zazikulu ndi kupambana.