Chifundo ndi chiyani, komanso momwe mungachiwonetsere?

Maphunziro mwaokha okha makhalidwe a umunthu - sitepe yofunikira pakupanga umunthu. Zili pa iwo kuti khalidwe lathu limadalira. Kufikira kwina, aliyense amakhudza chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe, koma pamapeto pake, makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe abwino amatsimikiziridwa ndi aliyense. Kotero ndikumvera chiyani, ndipo kodi mukuyenera kulikulitsa nokha?

Tsatanetsatane wa zofotokozera imatanthauzira kumvetsa chisoni monga mwayi womvetsetsa zochitika za wina, zokhudzidwa ndi chisoni cha wina, kudziyika wekha pamalo a munthu wina. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa malingaliro a munthu, komanso kugawana nawo. Kawirikawiri osati, zilembo za chikhalidwe ichi zilipo mwa munthu aliyense. Ndani samayambitsa chisoni cha ana omwe asiyidwa kapena amayi achikulire akupempha thandizo? Koma mkhalidwe wa munthu siwowonekera nthawi zonse. Kawirikawiri, anthu omwe ali opsinjika maganizo samawonetsa dziko lawo mwanjira iliyonse. Choncho, ndikofunika kukhala ndi chifundo ndi kukhudzidwa.

Kodi mungasonyeze bwanji chifundo? Palibe kapepala kamodzi. Winawake ayenera kung'ung'udza, wina akunena mawu olimbikitsa. Ena amafunika kuthandizidwa pa zachuma. Gawo loyamba limene muyenera kuchita ndikumvetsera kwa munthuyo. Nthawi zina ngakhale izi zingathandize kwambiri. Funsani mafunso. Kotero, interlocutor adzamvetsa kuti iye alibe chidwi ndi inu. Phunzirani nokha zochitikazo. Chisoni ndi chifundo zimayenderana, kotero ndikofunikira kuti muzindikire kudandaula kwa wina m'kupita kwanthawi. Musaope kuwonekera cheeky. Chinthu chomalizira kuchita ndi kudziyika nokha mu nsapato za munthu wina. Ichi ndi sitepe yovuta kwambiri. Kulakwitsa kwakukulu kumene amapanga ndi chilango. Izi sizitsogolera ku zabwino zilizonse. Ndipotu, kumvetsa chisoni ndi chiyani? Uwu ndi kukhoza kugawa chisoni cha wina. Mfundo yofunikira ndi "kugawa". Ndipo musapereke yankho la zomwe zikuchitika. Kuti mumvetse bwino mavuto a anthu ena, muyenera kuwerenga mabuku pa psychology.

Sikokwanira kuti mudziwe kuti kumvetsetsa ndi kotani, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu. Pachifukwa ichi, ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi khalidweli. Lankhulani zambiri ndi ana, ndi anzanu. Onetsetsani mosamala anthu omwe akuzungulirani, onetsetsani chikhalidwe chawo. Nthawi iliyonse muzidziika nokha pamalo awo. Izi zidzakuthandizani kukhala oleza mtima pazochita za ena. Chifundo ndi chofunikanso. Ndikumva kumverera kwa anthu ena. N'zovuta kuphunzira, koma n'zotheka. Pambuyo pake, simukusowa kudziwa kuti kumvetsa ndi chiyani, muzisonyeza popanda zovuta.

Kuwonjezera pa kukhala ndi chifundo mwa inueni, nkofunika Ikani kumverera kwa ana. Popanda izi, adzakhala achiwawa komanso odzikonda. Musaiwale kuti amapereka chitsanzo kuchokera kwa makolo awo. Ngati ali olemekezana wina ndi mzake, khalani ndi chikondi, ndiye kuti ana amavomereza mosavuta. Ngati vutoli lidzasinthidwe, ndiye kuti palibe chabwino chilichonse chomwe mungayembekezere. Ndikofunika kulankhula nawo pamfundo ndi kumverera, kuwerenga mabuku limodzi ndi zina zotero. Kumbukirani kuti mwana wamkuluyo, ndikovuta kwambiri kuti aphunzitsenso.

Komanso, chifundo ndi khalidwe lofunika kwa akatswiri a maganizo. Pa ntchito yawo ya tsiku ndi tsiku iwo amakumana ndi mavuto ambiri aumunthu ndipo ntchito yawo sikuti kungothandiza koma kugawa chisoni. Chochititsa chidwi ndi chakuti amuna amatha kusonyeza chifundo kuposa akazi. Ndilo gawo lawo lothandizira kuthandiza anthu ofooka. Koma kumapeto, momwe angakhalire, munthu aliyense amasankha yekha.