Kodi n'zoona kuti Chikhristu limatiuza za kugonana ndi ukwati?

Chikhristu zambiri akusokoneza mfundo zina m'banja, makamaka pankhani ya kugonana. Komabe, anthu yaitali anasintha, anakhala womasuka, kotero tsopano makhalidwe amenewa ndi ogwirizana. Kodi mtundu wa Akhristu onyenga akupitirizabe kufalikira?

Unamwali - chochitika kwachilengedwenso

Kamodzi inu anagonapo, inu apitirira Kukhala namwali - osachepera, ndicho chimene inu akufunsidwa kuti ndimakhulupirira mu mpingo. Inde, zipembedzo zambiri mpingo pali kusiyana pakati pa zimene anali patsogolo malowedwe, ndipo izo zinali pambuyo pa, omwe amasonyeza mfundo unamwali. Nanga funso yeniyeni kugonana? Amaona ngati Pankhaniyi akugonana m'kamwa? Nanga bwanji za kugonana kumatako? Kapena limangokhudza kugonana kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi? Ndipotu lingaliro la anamwali monga chochitika kwachilengedwenso ali ndi zovuta zake, ndi chabe zinthu zokhudza opaleshoni kukhalabe zina chiyero cha chikhalidwe. Unamwali kulibe monga zochitika umodzi kwachilengedwenso. Ndipotu imfa yake - ndiyo njira kusamukira ku nthawi imene inu mulibe zinachitikira aliyense kugonana zambiri za moyo, ndi ndondomeko izi ali magawo angapo. Zambiri zomveka kwambiri kunena kuti unamwali alipo ngati lingaliro, chimene chimathandiza kuona mukumumvetsera kugonana kunena kuti ndi chinthu kwachilengedwenso.

Ukwati basi zimapangitsa kugonana zodabwitsa zonse

Kugonana kumaoneka atakwatirana. Koma akhoza kukhala wokongola zoipa. Inde, ukwati wanu usiku kungakhale kovuta ndi unsightly kugonana, koma palibe cholakwika ndi zimenezo. kugonana chabwino tifunika kukondana kukhulupirira, chilungamo, Gona ndi kukhuta mangawawo. Izi chingapezeke kunja kwa ukwati, koma iwo akhoza kwambiri analimbitsa izo mwa ukwati. Ngakhale kuti Akhristu ambiri amati chikhulupiriro mwa Baibulo silinena moyo wanu kugonana basi chabwino. Kugonana amakhala mozizwitsa mwamsanga kuika siginecha anu pa kalata ya ukwati ndi kulandira madalitso a wansembe.

Kugonana kuti anthu mwamuna ndi mkazi wa amuna ndi akazi osiyana

Aliyense anamva izo nthawi zambiri: "Ngati Mwamuna akagona ndi mwamuna wina - ndi zonyansa." Mipingo yambiri amaonabe zamulungu kutsutsa moyandikana anthu a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi kulanga anthu geyi amene satsatira mfundo za makhalidwe kugonana mpingo. Mofananamo, iwo amati, ndi kuti kugonana okha anthu mwamuna ndi mkazi wa amuna ndi akazi osiyana, kuthetseratu kuthekera kugonana anthu onse ammudzi LGBT. Ngakhale anthu transgender alibe ufulu kugonana, molingana ndi mpingo. view mmodzi wa mipingo afalitsidwa posachedwapa kuti transgender ndi mtundu olondola a mathanyula.

Ngati inu kukwatiwa ndi msinkhu winawake, muli ndi vuto

M'madera ena a dziko la Chikhristu ndi nkhawa kwambili pa anthu, lolunjika pa chakuti iwo apeza limodzi moyo wawo wonse, mpaka zaka 25. kuthamanga kwambiri kotero kuti anthu ena amaganiza kusimidwa, ngati iwo sangathe kupeza mwamuna pamaso tsiku yamavuto imeneyi. Mark Regnerus mu 2009, analemba kuti: "zoyesayesa zawo zoika chiyero ndi kudzisunga ife anaiwala chiyani Akristu achinyamata mmene bwino zomangira mfundo." Mfundo mokomera kukwatiwa mwamsanga kwambiri za chonde ndi idealized matanthauziro a Baibulo a banja mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi kukhulupirika. Komabe, palibe akonzedwa zaka zimene muli kukwatira. Mukhoza kukhala zaka 26, inu simungakhoze kukhala naye ndi kukhala okonzeka zokhudza chikondi, ndipo izi vuto.

Kugonana musanalowe m'banja amakupangani inu kukhala "kuonongeka katundu"

Palibe "kuonongeka katundu." Ziribe kanthu kangati mukugonana - izo sizimapanga inu "kuonongeka katundu." bodza ndi owopsa kwa anthu amene akumana ndi kugwiriridwa m'mbuyomu. Anthu a chiyero cha gululi pali mantha aakulu kuti ngati "kudzipereka tokha" kapena "tiyeni mu munthu", inu asokoneza. Koma moyo sizikuyenda bwino. Anthu anachita zoipa, kaya zikhale zinthu zabwino kapena zoipa, kumupanga iye munthu ali. Kunena kuti mtundu uliwonse wa kugonana chimakupangitsani inu "kuonongeka" - ndicho chinthu chomwecho monga kunena kuti zonse zimene inu mungaime, inali pakati pa miyendo yanu, ndipo ichi ndi bodza mtheradi.

Mkazi ayenera kukwaniritsa zofuna za amuna

Ndipotu, monga mpingo unena za kugonana poyera kuonekera awiri mfundo. Nthawi zonse kumbali ya anthu pa nkhani imeneyi ndi kuika pamafunika apamwamba kuposa akazi. Mpingo umakhulupirira kuti mkazi ayenera kukhala okonzeka kukwaniritsa zofuna za amuna, nthawi iliyonse ndipo nthawi iliyonse. Komabe, mfundo imeneyi sakutanthauza chakuti amuna zosoŵa za akazi m'njira iliyonse akhoza kugonana kapena zosowa zina. Mkhristu Maliko analemba Driscoll amapita kutali mu mudaweruza amene amanena ngati mkazi amene anakana kuti anthu kugonana (kaya - zingakhale ngati safuna labwinobwino kapena nkhawa, ululu kapena kupwetekedwa pa chitsanzo cha kugwiriridwa) ndi odzikonda ndipo motsutsana ndi chifuniro cha Mulungu. Ndi nthawi kuika a ku Korea «Ine» ndi kunena momveka bwino komanso mofuula: si akazi munthu kugonana zidole amuna.

Amuna sadzakwatira chifukwa cha kugonana, akazi ukwatiwa chikondi

Ena olemba ndiwofatsa Mkhristu kufotokoza amuna monga "chilombo," chomwe suli mlandu chifukwa cha zochita zawo. Izi stereotype jenda ndi imodzi mwa yowala. Anthu kukwatirana ndi kukwatiwa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Kugonana ndi chikondi si zifukwa chokha chimene anthu zingwe mfundo. Komabe, chinthu chimodzi chili choona: palibe chifukwa si yekha jenda iliyonse.

Banja - muyaya

Ngakhale kuti si nthawi zonse motsimikizira, koma akazi akulangizidwa zonse kukhululukira amuna awo, ngakhale iwo kumasinthasintha iwo kapena awakwapule. Komanso akazi anamukakamiza osati kusudzulana amuna awo, kuyambira kuthetsa banja amaona zipembedzo ndiwofatsa Mkhristu ngati kanthu chiwerewere. Komanso manyazi chakale za unamwali akhoza kuchita chilekano akazi zovuta ndi zopweteka.

Kuseweretsa maliseche - kuli tchimo (ndipo mwina chizindikiro cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha)

Kulimbikitsa kudzisunga ndiwofatsa Chikhristu limodzi ndi sakhulupirira kuseweretsa maliseche mu akazi ndi amuna. Akhristu ena ngakhale kutchedwa kuchita kuseweretsa maliseche, amasiya. Iwo amanena kuti kuseweretsa maliseche akhoza kukhala mtundu wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, monga kugonana kuti siyikhuzana munthu atsikana. Kawirikawiri mfundo zotsutsana kuseweretsa maliseche ndi kuchepetsedwa kuti nkhani ya m'Baibulo ya Onani, munthu amene mwadala anakhetsa mbewu yake pansi - ndipo ichi ndi chitsimikizo cha kuchimwa kwa kuseweretsa maliseche. Koma zimakhala zovuta kuti abwere ndi bodza lalikulu. Kuseweretsa maliseche - izo mwamtheradi yachibadwa ndondomeko, khalidwe wathanzi amene mulibe bwenzi, ndipo amene ali pa ubwenzi kapena monga kugonana anafooka.