Amamva mbali kulankhulana: zili maganizo

Amamva kulankhulana mbali akusonyeza kuti pali ayenera kukhala kumvetsa mwagwirizana pakati pa zipani. Ndi kuzindikira zomera, zolinga ndi zolinga za mnzanuyo komanso akuvomereza ndi kulekanitsidwa. Only mu nkhani iyi, ndi maganizo a munthu wina ndi mzake, ndipo ife tikhoza kulankhula za kukhalapo kwa luntha lotha.

Amamva mbali kulankhulana ali ntchito zotsatirazi:

• amapanga zili lotha kuzindikira;
• kulimbikitsa kumvana;
• Imakhala abwenzi kulankhulana izititsogolera pa wina ndi mzake.

Zonsezi ndi zotheka chifukwa cha "ntchito" ya njira yeniyeni. Izi zikuphatikizapo zotsatirazi.

• Choyamba, kukopeka, chifundo ndi kupeza Zimenezi zimathandiza kuti nzeru ndi luntha la anthu wina ndi mzake.
• Chachiwiri, chinyezimiro, amene amathandiza kudziletsa chidziwitso mu kulankhulana.
• Chachitatu, causal Attribution, amene amathandiza kuti ulosi wa khalidwe m'kati kulankhulana wa mwamuna.

Amamva mbali kulankhulana ayenera monga ntchito njira zonse izi. Tiyeni akukhala mwatsatanetsatane pa makhalidwe awo.

Chiphaso - ndi limagwirira kwa kudziŵa anthu mzake pamene maganizo za boma mkati mwa munthu wina adzamangira pamaziko a akuyesetsa kuika nokha mu malo okondedwa a.

Chisoni akusonyeza chifundo maganizo kwa iye.

Kukopa kapena kukopa ndi mawonekedwe a chidziwitso cha gwero, ozikidwa pa kupanga zabwino maganizo zisathe iye.

Amamva mbali kulankhulana kudzadalira makamaka momwe zimagwirira izi bwino anayamba kuthandiza kumvetsa munthu wina. Komanso, kufunika kusinkhasinkha ndi causal Attribution.

Poganizira ndi limagwirira imene kudzikonda amapezeka kulankhulana. Bukuli lili ndi luso kuimira njira yomwe amaona ndi okondedwa ake.

Causal Attribution kumafuna kutanthauzira kwa ntchito ndi maganizo a munthu wina, pamene pali cholinga kupeza zifukwa khalidwe lake.

Pamene anaphunzira amamva mbali akatswiri kulankhulana, iwo sankawabisira ndi dongosolo chidwi:

• chifukwa anthu nthawi zonse zimachitika bwino yokha, koma kulephera - zochitika kapena anthu ena;
• munthu amene chokhwima kwa bwenzi lake, iwowa nthawizonse adzakhala yodziwika ndi zoipa zambiri;
• naye kulankhulana kawirikawiri adazindikira mwa prism za "koyamba" ndi zolakwa zake.

Pa dongosolo omaliza mwatsatanetsatane.

Childs, pamene Iganizireni mlendo makumi asanu peresenti view zolondola, koma ena makumi asanu - cholakwika. Ichi ndi chifukwa mfundo zitatu, amene anatsindika pamene anaphunzira amamva mbali kulankhulana. Psychology munthu ananena kuti iye, mosasamala zambiri, zaka ndi jenda, nthawi zonse unakhudza:

• Kusokera ukulu. Munthu amene ali wapamwamba kwambiri chifukwa chilichonse magawo, ife nthawizonse ganizilani mmene wanzeru kwambiri ndi luso. Apo ayi, m'malo mwake.
• Cholakwika mtima kwa ife. Munthu amene amachita nafe mwachifundo ndiponso mwaulemu, nthawi zonse zimachitika ku makhalidwe abwino.
• chikoka cha cholakwa. Munthu amene akuwoneka ngati ife, kapena wina ndi makhalidwe munthu, adzakhala anazindikira mosiyana. Iye ngakhale zimachitika makhalidwe sanali sakupezeka munthu.

Choncho, Polongosola mwachidule pamwamba: ndi amamva mbali kulankhulana - ndi zofunika chigawo chimodzi cha izo. Izo ziyenera monga:

• kudziona mu ndondomeko kulankhulana;
• kumvetsa ndi kudziwa interlocutor ya;
• kuneneratu khalidwe la mnzawo.