Ndi wautali bwanji chikondi?

Wamuyaya chikondi - chikondi loto la munthu aliyense. Monga mwana, ife onse amakhulupilira kuti chikondi alipo, ndi zina chikondi, mfundo, sangakhale. Komabe, anakulira ndi kutentha angapo zina, mwakachetechete anakhumudwa ndi chikondi chosatha ndi chikondi chokha. Wina akupitiriza ndikuyembekeza kuti mukhoza kuona wake "chikondi kwa moyo", ngakhale onse anachitika kukhumudwa wake, koma zimene munthu ali mpaka mapeto a moyo ndi amanenera, kwenikweni akasiya uliwonse wa chikondi amene akugogoda pa moyo wake. Kodi ufulu wofanana? Ndipo monga chikondi kumatenga, kwenikweni?

Choyamba muyenera kusiyanitsa pakati pa mfundo yonena za "chikondi" ndipo "chikondi." Yotsirizira singalifotokoze ena zochita mankhwala kuti asayansi akuyesera kuchita lero. Kamodzi zotsatira za "matsenga elixir" yatha, ndipo anataya chikhumbo chonse kukhala pafupi ndi wokondedwa kale. Ndipo angapo yopuma bwinobwino. Kawirikawiri, pambuyo 3-6 miyezi, inu mukhoza kunena motsimikiza - ngati anthu awiri chikondi amaonera, kapena pakati pa iwo kunabuka mumtima zakuya.

Okayikira amakhulupirira kuti amphamvu chikondi - chifukwa cha polojekitiyi maganizo mahomoni, mahomoni yekha amphamvu ndi kuleza kuthamanga. Sindikhulupirira kumverera chapamwamba, iwo kufunsa mmene chikondi chimakhala ndi zonse kuyembekezera kuti nthano unagwa, kudzakhala njira imodzi yokha ya moyo. Ndipo ngati chikondi ephemeral, choncho Kwatirani bwino pa maziko a mawerengedwe a chabwino, osati kukopeka ndi "mankhwala kuukira". N'zosadabwitsa kuti nkhani zoterozo zikuphatikizapo ndi moyo wosakondwa banja. Kuwamana nokha wa mtengo kwambiri zamatsenga, munthu zimaphwanya yekha chofunika kwambiri - losavuta, koma chimwemwe kutero.

Asayansi, zochokera zatsopano zokayikitsa, yekha kuwonjezera mafuta ndi moto. Mwachitsanzo, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti chikondi umatha zaka zitatu, ndi chifukwa cha kafukufuku mwachilungamo wophweka, kutenga nkhani zosiyanasiyana zochepa zinthu ndi amakhala ndi chitsanzo yaing'ono kwambiri. Mwa njira, ndi kuyesera zofanana, wochitidwa ndi gulu lina la asayansi, funso la mmene chikondi zambiri kumatenga, muli ndi yankho losiyana kotheratu. Kunapezeka kuti anthu ambiri akukondabe theka awo ena, ngakhale pambuyo pa banja zaka 20.

Mwina, ngakhale okayikira amavomereza kuti wokondwa chikondi nkhani, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri, koma chimachitika, choncho, chikondi pamoyo wake kumeneko ndipo simungathe kuzifotokoza yekha chifukwa cha zochita mankhwala. Kotero ngati simungathe kuzitcha izo sizinatheke? Ndipo chifukwa munthu angaike chikondi moyo, pamene ena, sangathe kudzipulumutsa yekha kumverera uku , ndi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi?

Yankho wopezeka pa funso limeneli ayi. Koma pamene inu kuganizira kuti chikondi - ichi ndi chimodzi mwa wabwino apamwamba mu dziko lino, n'zomveka kuti sitiyenera accrue mmodzi ndi onse pachabe. Mwina chikondi n'kofunika kuti apindule, moto, chokhumudwitsa mpaka amakhulupilira mu zozizwitsa! Ndipotu, zodabwitsa chikondi nkhani kuyambira pa nthawi ndi zinthu zochititsa waung'ono kwambiri monga: ulendo wopita ku sitolo ndi msonkhano ku siteji ya basi.

Ife akuwononga tokha mu luso chikondi. Ngati munthu sakhulupirira kuti chikondi yayitali kuposa mmene m'maganizo mwake mahomoni aliyense sadzatha kukonda, ndi kuti zikachitika sadzakhoza kuona mmene lofuna munthu wina. Anthu amenewa amatchedwa "icicles" ndipo amakonda kupeza chonse.

Tsopano zimaonekeratu chifukwa funso la mmene chikondi zambiri kumatenga, palibe yankho lomveka bwino. Izi zidalira pa inu, pa kudzipereka kwanu, chikhulupiriro ndi luso amakondana. Usaope kukhumudwa, samalani chikhulupiriro mwa chikondi. Ndikukhulupirira mwa iye, ndi iye adzapeza inu - chikondi chenicheni, amene palibe chinthu monga nthawi.