Momwe mungaphunzire kudzilemekeza nokha: uphungu wa katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti muwonjezere kudzidalira

Nthawi zambiri, kudzidalira kwa munthu kumakhazikitsidwa kuyambira ubwana. Chifukwa cha khalidwe lolakwika la makolo, munthuyo adzakulira osatetezeka, nthawi zonse kukayikira, kusayesa bwino zochita zake, monga lamulo, wosakhutira ndi moyo. Bwanji osalola izi? Ndipo ngati munthu wasiya kudzichepetsa, momwe angakulimbitsire, kukhala wodalirika kwambiri, kudziyamikira nokha ndi kusintha moyo wako? Izi zidzafotokozedwa m'nkhaniyi.

Mayi: Chilango ndi Chitamando

Ngati mayi akufuna kupanga mwana wake umunthu kuti athe kudziyesa yekha ndi zochita zake, sayenera kulanga, komanso kutamanda mwana wake. Pamene munthu wamkulu akudzifunsa yekha funso: "Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kudzilemekeza nokha?", Ayenera kuyang'ana ali mwana. Zikuoneka kuti iye anali kuzunzidwa kwambiri komanso osakondedwa ndi makolo ake, makamaka amayi ake. Mwana akamangokhalira kutsutsidwa, amadzitonza. Ngati mwanayo akutamandidwa, munthu wokhala ndi mtima wodzidalira amakula . Kotero zimakhala kuti nthawizonse ndi bwino kumamatira ku golidi kutanthauza. Amayi akhala nthawi zonse ndipo adzalumikizana kwambiri ndi maphunziro a mwana wamkazi kapena mwana wamwamuna.

Malinga ndi momwe amayi amaonera, chilango chingakhale choyenera, chifukwa mwanayo samvera. Komabe, nthawi zambiri ana amanyozedwa osati chifukwa amafuna kutitonza, koma amaphunzira chinachake chatsopano, kuphunzira chinachake, ndipo kholo limakhala lovuta, lovuta. Pofuna kupewa mikangano, amayi ayenera kukhala ndi ulemu kwa mwana wawo, kuthekera kumuwona ngati munthu wodziimira. "Ndanena! .." ziyenera kumveka zosavuta kulankhulana ndi mwana wanu wamtengo wapatali. Tangoganizirani mmene mungaphunzire kulemekeza mwana ngati akutsutsidwa nthawi zonse! Kuchokera kwa munthu wamng'ono choteroyo kumakula mosatetezeka ndipo mwinamwake kukhumudwa, munthu wamkulu wokwiya nkomwe. Kulemekezana ndi kulankhulana momasuka ndi njira yokhayo yokhazikitsira anthu omwe amadzilemekeza komanso ozungulira. Palibe amene amalamulira mwachangu, koma mwachinthu chimodzi palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere. Munthu sali ngati mphete mu uta. Ikhoza kutulutsidwa, kumasulidwa ndi kubwezeretsedwanso, koma ngati mukukoka, psyche idzavutika ...

Chofunika kwambiri cha kudzidalira nokha komanso mmene mungaphunzire kudzilemekeza nokha ndi kudzidalira?

Kudzilemekeza kumveka ngati mawu a woweruza wa munthu wamkati. Iye amayesa zochita zathu, zotsatira, mawu, maganizo, kudzikonda. Chotsatira chake, kudzikuza kumapangidwira zomwe zimakhudza maganizo athu a dziko lapansi ndi malo athu, makhalidwe athu, chikhulupiliro ndi khama kuti tichitepo kanthu, kusintha chinachake ndikuganiza ngati tingathandize munthu kapena ayi, ndi zina zotero. Nthawi zambiri kudzilemekeza kwa anthu ambiri ndi kolimba kwambiri Zimadalira mmene ena amationera. Ngati chiŵerengero chimenechi ndi cholondola, ndiye kuti, timakula m'maso mwathu. Malingaliro a ena ndi ofunika kwa onse: amayi, abambo, atsikana ndi anyamata, achinyamata komanso achinyamata.

Kuti mudziwe momwe mungaphunzire kudzilemekeza nokha, nkofunikira:

• Dziwani kuti muli ndi malingaliro odzimva nokha. Kuzindikira ndi njira yoyamba yothetsera vutoli.
• Lekani kuganizira zolephera zanu. Pitani ku ulemu.
• Simuli wozunzidwa! Mavuto ali onse, ndipo inunso mulibe. Mavuto anu sali oposa ena. Ngati mukuwomba, iwo adzaipiraipira. Kuchokera kwa munthu wopweteka, anthu amasiya, ndipo njira zatsopano ndi mwayi watsekedwa.
• Pumulani! Pezani nthawi yanu. Lolani kukhala maminiti ochepa chabe, koma ayenera kukhala ndi inu - miniti ya bata ndi mtendere.
• Kondwerani ndipo chonde musangalatse nokha ndi ena ... Pangani zozizwitsa zazing'ono, mphatso, kupita ku maulendo, kupita ku mafilimu, kumatauni kapena ku paki ... Kukondweretsa nokha ndi okondedwa anu, mumalandila mphamvu yochuluka komanso mphamvu yowonjezera, yomwe imakhudza Kudzidalira, kudzidalira komanso khalidwe la moyo.

Zoona ndi kudzidalira

Ndizodabwitsa kuti kudzidalira kwathu sikukugwirizana ndi zenizeni. Kudzilemekeza, luso, luso nthawi zambiri sizikufanana. Mbiri imadziwa zochitika zambiri pamene okalamba, omwe ali ndi luso lapadera ndi luso, anali odzichepetsa okha. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, pali anthu omwe ali ndi luso lotha msinkhu kapena amalephera nzeru komanso maluso. Ndizodabwitsa, ndi kudzikuza kotani komwe ali nako!

Kupanda kudzidalira kumawatsogolera anthu kumverera osatetezeka, kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa komanso opsinjika maganizo, sangathe kutsegula mowonjezera kuthekera kwawo, akukumana ndi zovuta komanso maubwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, momwe mungadzikondere nokha ndikuonjezera kudzidalira kwa mkazi yemwe amadandaula nthawi zonse, kunyozedwa, kunyozedwa ndi kunyozedwa? Mkazi wotero wodzichepetsa angamuuze mwamuna wake mawu, omwe pa nthawi ina sakananena chilichonse. Ndili ndi mwamuna wina yemwe akudziwa momwe angawonetsere ulemu wake ndikumulemekeza, angakhale mkazi wosiyana kwambiri, akudziyang'ana yekha ndi malo ake ...

Vuto lalikulu lodzidzilemekeza nokha ndilo kupanga lingaliro lokwanira la anthu komanso malo ake mmenemo. Kudzichepetsa kwambiri kumadzetsa kuonekera kwa kudzidzimva kwachidziwitso, manyazi, phobias osiyanasiyana. Zonsezi, ndithudi, zimakhudza kupambana ndi kudzidzimitsa kwa munthu aliyense.

Momwe mungadzikondere nokha ndikuonjezera kudzidalira kwa mkazi kapena mwamuna?

Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimabweretsa kudzichepetsa. Monga lamulo, uwu ndi chiyimire chodziwika bwino cha munthu payekha, kuyambira pa ubwana, zochitika za m'mbuyomu komanso kutalika kwa makolo. Kudzipatulira kungachititse kuti munthu akhale ndi maganizo komanso (kapena) chiwawa chogonana, zosankha zolakwika zomwe zachititsa mavuto aakulu. Ngati munthu wapulumuka mtundu uliwonse wa nkhanza, amafunikira thandizo la akatswiri kuti adziwe kudzidalira kwake.

Thandizo la katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena wamaganizo adzapangitsa kumasula, kuyankhula ndikuyanjanitsa. Anthu ambiri amayesa kudzionjezera okha kudzidalira okha, koma izi sizipereka zotsatira zoyenera. Nthaŵi zina njira zoterezi zimapangitsa kuti dziko liwonjezeke, mpaka zotsatira zake zoipa. Kudzikweza kudzilemekeza, munthu ayenera kukhala ndi mphamvu yodabwitsa ya malingaliro, komanso maganizo abwino. Njira yabwino ndikumacheza ndi katswiri.

Ndi zizindikiro ziti zosadzilemekeza nokha

Kudzifufuza kumasintha. Zimadalira zochitika ndi malo. Pali anthu omwe ali odekha ndi abwino ndi anthu oyandikana nawo, ndipo amatsekedwa komanso amanyazi ndi alendo. Ena, mosiyana, kunja kwa nyumba ali ndi chidaliro, otanganidwa ndi chiyembekezo, ndipo panyumba iwo atayika ndipo, monga momwemo, amatha. Ife tonse ndife osiyana. Sikuti aliyense ali ndi mphamvu yokhala ndi maganizo oyenera komanso ovuta. Kudzidalira mokwanira ndi kudzidalira kumapangidwira muubwana. Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti sikutheka kupanga izo pokhala wamkulu. Pachifukwa ichi mukufunikira zosowa za munthuyo mwiniyo.

Nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti munthu ali ndi chidaliro chokwanira, wokhala ndi chiyembekezo chabwino. Koma kwenikweni, munthu woteroyo nthawi zonse amakhala ndi vuto lakumenyana ndi iye mwini, ndi zovuta zake komanso maofesi ake. Choncho, kudzichepetsa kumadziwonekera mwa anthu osiyanasiyana mosiyana. Kuti mumvetse mmene mungaphunzire kuyamikira ndikudzilemekeza nokha, m'pofunika kudzifufuza nokha zomwe zimayambitsa ndi zizindikiro za kudzidalira:

• Kudziimba mlandu - kawirikawiri komanso mopanda nzeru;
• Kugonjetsa;
• Kudzudzula kopanda malire;
• Kuuma ndi manyazi;
• Zolemba zosiyanasiyana zimapanga, mantha (mwachitsanzo, poyankhula pagulu).

Anthu omwe amadzikayikira okha, monga lamulo, amadziwa kuti dziko lapansi ndi loipa, ndipo amadzimva okha ngati wozunzidwa. Amawopa ndi kukanika kufotokozera ndi kuteteza ufulu wawo, kukana zochitika zatsopano, kusowa mwayi ndikumva kuti alibe thandizo komanso osasintha moyo. Zonsezi zimangowonjezera vutoli, ndipo munthuyo amasunthira muzitseko zatsekedwa, nthawi zonse akumverera manyazi komanso mantha.

Nthawi zina kudzipangitsa kukhalabe wodzidalira mwachindunji ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zofunikira za matenda a maganizo (kuvutika maganizo, matenda osokoneza bongo).

Kodi zotsatira za kudzichepetsa ndi zotani?

Kudzilemekeza nokha poyamba kumakhudza thanzi lanu ndi psyche. Munthu akhoza kuyamba kuchita zoipa (kutaya ntchito, kusudzulana, etc.). Amayamba kumva kuti alibe kukwaniritsidwa, kukhumudwa mu chiyanjano, kusagwirizana ndi zinthu, chirichonse chikuwoneka kuti chikuyandama kuchokera m'manja ...

Mkazi aliyense ayenera kudzilemekeza yekha, mwinamwake amatha kuopsezedwa kapena kuchititsidwa manyazi nthawi zonse ndi anthu omwe sali otsegulidwa. Maonekedwe oipa amachititsa chisoni kanthawi, osati ayi. Kenaka akuyamba ena okhumudwitsa. Wopanda thandizo panthawi ya mavuto a moyo, munthu akhoza kuchitidwa nkhanza (maganizo, thupi, kugonana), chifukwa cha tsankho chifukwa cha malingaliro achipembedzo, chikhalidwe, mtundu, kugonana, ndi zina zotero Iye akhoza kukhala ndi matenda a maganizo.

Malangizo achidule: momwe mungadzikondere ndi kudzilemekeza nokha, mosasamala za chikhalidwe, zaka kapena udindo

Aliyense amayenera chikondi ndi kulemekeza. Nazi malingaliro omwe sitepe ndi sitepe amathandizira kuti ukhale wokhazikika mu moyo ndikuwonjezera kudzidalira :

• Pangani mndandanda wa zopindula zanu ndi mphamvu zanu, nthawi zonse muziziwerenganso;
• Kumbukirani zapadera, zoyenera kwa okondedwa ndi ena, ndipo ngakhale ngati palibe, ndiye kuti mufunikiradi Mulungu. Ndiwe munthu amene Mulungu amamukonda komanso amamuyamikira, koma akufuna kuti izi zisandulike ndikuchotsa maganizo oipa ndi moyo wowawa;
• Pezani nokha ngakhale kuganiza: "Palibe amene akusowa ine, palibe amene amandikonda, sindinapeze chilichonse, ndine wotayika ...";
• Sambani maonekedwe anu, ndizofunikira kuthetsa vuto la kudzidalira;
• Idyani chakudya chopatsa thanzi komanso chabwino. Musadye chakudya pansi pa TV, kanema, wailesi, ndi zina. Mukhale nthawi yapadera ndi tebulo loperekedwa, ngakhale mutakhala nokha;
• Chitani masewera osachepera katatu pa sabata ndikuyendayenda mumlengalenga;
• Onetsetsani kuti mugone mokwanira;
• Pita mu njira zowisakaniza zopuma komanso osasunga ndalama za thanzi lanu;
• Nyumba zikhale zoyera komanso zokongola, ndipo makoma kapena alumali aziwalola kukongoletsa makalata anu, makapu, mphatso zamtengo wapatali kapena zithunzi zanu, zithunzi;
• Nthawi zina mumadya chakudya chokoma kapena kuchita bizinesi yanu yomwe mumaikonda ndi yosangalatsa;
• Mverani nyimbo zabwino, yang'anani filimu yogwira mtima, yokoma ndi yowala, yambani kutenga chidwi pa kujambula, kuvina, chikhalidwe;
• Kulankhulana ndi anthu abwino;
• Ikani zolinga zenizeni ndikukwaniritsa zotsatira;
• Tayani zinyalala kunja kwa nyumba ndi moyo;
• Phunzirani kuphika mokoma, kuimba, kuvina ndikupita ku kachisi, pempherani kwa Mulungu ndikupempha kuti mulole chikondi ndi moyo wanu;
• Gwiritsani ntchito bizinesi yosamalirika ndikuchitira anthu ntchito zabwino, yongolerani bwalo lolankhulana, pitirizani kupatula nthawi yanu kwa ena, pamene mukukulitsa maulendo anu;
• Musawope iwo omwe sakukuyamikirani, khalani owongoka, yang'anizani kumbuyo kwanu - simulibenso munthu wonyozeka. Ndinu munthu woyenera, kukhala ndi malingaliro ake omwe ndi kudzilemekeza, kukhutira ndi zabwino, ndipo lolani zoipa zikhale kwinakwake, kutali ndi inu;
• Musadzifanizire nokha ndi wina aliyense.

Kusintha kulikonse kwakha ndiko ntchito. Musati mutenge njirayi ngati ntchito yovuta, yovuta. Sangalalani ndi kusintha, khalani osangalala ndi kukhutira ndi izo.