Masculinity ndi ... Chikhalidwe chiani mwa akazi

Makhalidwe a chikhalidwe, umunthu ndi umunthu omwe amachitira mamembala onse aamuna amatchedwa "umuna." Izi ndi mawonetsedwe apadera aumunthu muzochitika zonse za moyo, patsiku, tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi chikhalidwe. Tanthawuzo la mawu mu sayansi zosiyanasiyana lingasinthidwe pang'ono, koma m'kalasiyi limakhudza amuna okha. Komabe, pali zolephereka kuchokera ku chizoloŵezi, zomwe zimamasuliridwa ngati chikazi chachikazi. Momwe zinthu zovutazi zikuwonetsera mwazogonana, werengani pansipa.

Kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi

Choyamba, tiyeni tiyese kusankha chomwe chikazi ndi chikhalidwe chiri. Nthawi yoyamba imasonyeza makhalidwe onse omwe ali nawo mwa amayi. Izi ndizo zovuta, chifatso, luso lokhazikitsa ulesi, kulera ndi kulera ana, luso la kukonda ndi kusamalira. Lamulo lachiwiri likuphimba makhalidwe onse omwe ayenera kukhala nawo mwa munthu aliyense. Pakati pawo palinso ndondomeko, mphamvu, bata, kuthekera kuteteza, komanso kukhala chithandizo kwa ofooka. Zonsezi zikhoza kumasuliridwa kuchokera kumalo owona zofunikira komanso njira yolumikizira anthu. Koma chidziwitso chododometsa chimakhala chogwira ntchito ngati chikazi ndi chikhalidwe chimagwirizana ndi mkazi ndi mwamuna, koma osati mosiyana.

Njira Yoyenera

Pamtima mwaumunthu muli makhalidwe omwe ali pamwambamwamba amatilola kusiyanitsa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Gawo lamphamvu laumunthu pano likuonedwa ngati gulu losiyana, lomwe lili ndi makhalidwe ake omwe ali nawo omwe akuyimira kuchokera ku kubadwa mpaka imfa. Kotero, chikhalidwe ndi chimene munthu alili mwa anthu, ndiye momwe amakhalira, kudalira zachibadwa ndi zikhumbo.

Mofananamo, chikazi chimachiritsidwa, komwe mbali yaikulu imayendetsedwa ndi zikhalidwe zonse zakuthupi ndi makhalidwe a makhalidwe omwe ali obadwa mwa kugonana kofooka. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti chiphunzitso ichi chakhala chikutsutsidwa mwamphamvu nthawi zambiri. Chowonadi ndi chakuti anthu apadziko lapansi sali osiyana. Dziko lirilonse liri ndi miyezo yake ndi malingaliro onena za makhalidwe omwe ayenera kukhala amtundu wa chiwerewere, kotero palibe chikhalidwe chimodzi kwa mkazi ndi mwamuna wofunikira kwambiri.

Njira yachikhalidwe-constructivist

Mwa kutanthauzira uku, umbuli ndizophatikizapo makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe omwe munthu ayenera kupatsidwa ndi kuti anthu akuyembekezera kuchokera kwa iye. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, mawuwa akutanthauza kuti m'mabuku onse, abambo ammunthu akuleredwa kuyambira ubwana, malinga ndi miyambo ndi miyambo ina. Chifukwa cha kulera kumeneku m'tsogolomu zikugwirizana ndi miyambo ya chikhalidwe cha dziko lawo. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi akazi. Msungwana aliyense wochokera kumabereka akuleredwa molingana ndi ndondomeko yeniyeni, kumuthandiza mwa iye makhalidwe onse omwe ayenera kumupanga mkazi weniweni, mkazi wachikondi, mayi wachikondi ndi zina zotero.

Mbiri yachikhalidwe

Ochita kafukufuku amanena kuti "chikhalidwe" - mfundo imeneyi siiyaya. Kuyambira m'mbiri yonse ya anthu m'mitundu yosiyanasiyana panali malingaliro awo pa zomwe mwamuna weniweni ayenera kuoneka komanso zomwe mwamuna weniweni ayenera kuchita. Kuwonetsa mbiri ya chitukuko cha mbali iyi ya chikhalidwe ndi kotheka chifukwa cha malingaliro awo omwe anali ofunika a izi kapena nthawi imeneyo. Ochita maseŵera ameneŵa ndi othamanga, olamulira a mayiko, umunthu wapadera, ojambula, ojambula zithunzi, ndi zina zotero. Mwachitsanzo, ngati tiganizira za zaka za m'ma Middle Ages ndi nthawi ya nkhondo, nkhondo zikuluzikulu zomwe zimapezeka pakati pa amuna zidzakhala zachiwawa, kusadziletsa, Kusokoneza. Ngati titembenukira ku nthawi zakale, ndiye kuti zochitika za kugonana mwamphamvu sizidzangokhala zowawa komanso zamphamvu, komanso zilembo, nzeru za filosofi, chilengedwe ndi zina zotero.

Kusintha maudindo

Tanena kale kuti ukazi ndi mgwirizano wa chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe chomwe chiyenera kukhala chikhalidwe mwa mkazi aliyense kuti athe kutenga malo ake. Kuchokera pa chikhalidwe cha chikazi, izi sizowonjezera chikhalidwe chokhazikitsidwa kwa amai ndi dongosolo la makolo. Amachepetsa theka labwino la umunthu muzochita zosiyanasiyana ndi mwayi, musalole kuti akule ndi kukonza.

Pambuyo pake mu kuwerenga maganizo, mawu akuti "mzimayi mwa akazi" adawonekera mwachidwi. Izi zikutanthawuza kuti nthumwi yaumuna wofooka ili ndi makhalidwe omwe amamudziwa.

Amuna

M'chaka chachisanu cha moyo, aliyense wa ife amatsimikiziridwa kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali ndi kugonana. Izi zimapindula kudzera mu maphunziro mu njira yoyenera, komanso kudzera mu mphamvu ya mahomoni ogonana ndi zinthu zina zakuthupi. Koma zimachitika kuti chifukwa cha chikoka cha anthu kapena banja, chifukwa cha kuphwanya mu dongosolo la endocrine, zochitikazi zikuphwanyidwa. Zotsatira zake, mtsikanayo amakhala ngati mwana wamwamuna kuchokera ku deta zakunja, ndi khalidwe lake ndi khalidwe lake. Komabe, akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti nthawi ya kusakaniza, nthawi zambiri atsikana amakhala pafupi ndi izi ndikukhala akazi.

Kujambula masculinity: zizindikiro ndi zizindikiro

Mwachidule ndikuuzeni momwe mungadziwire kusiyana pakati pa kugonana kwa msinkhu wa msungwana.

• Toys. Mwanayo amasankha asilikali, magalimoto, amatha kujambula toys, amadzionetsa yekha ngati ng'ombe yamphongo.
• Kulankhulana ndi ana a zaka chimodzi. Msungwanayo ndi abwenzi okha ndi anyamata, pamene akukambirana nawo mofanana.
• Kulankhulana ndi akuluakulu. Pano, mwanayo amasankha makampani a amuna. Kwa mtsikana wamkazi mtsikanayo akhoza kusonyeza chikondi ndi mphamvu ya mphamvu ya kugonana kolimba.
• Zokonda mu zovala. Msungwana amauza mayi ake kuti azivale ndi zinthu zamwamuna, amakonda kwambiri tsitsi lake.

Kutsiliza

Tinaona kuti pachiyambi mkhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha thupi ndi chikhalidwe chomwe chimamasulira munthu mumtundu. Komabe, nthawi zina, makhalidwe onse okhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cholimba akhoza kukhala azimayi. Nthawi zina izi ndi zotsatira za maphunziro olakwika, ndipo nthawi zina izi zimakhala chifukwa chophwanya mahomoni.