Kodi kuiwala chikondi?

Chikondi - ndi maganizo chodabwitsa, chifukwa chimene taphunzira momwe wokongola dziko lino. Ndi lingaliro la chikondi, ife tiri okonzeka kuti ndikasendeza mapiri, ndi kuchita zonse chifukwa cha osankhidwawo. Koma, mwatsoka, nthawi zina chikondi amapita ... Ndipo nthawi zambiri, ngati mmene muli pa chimodzi kapena chimzake akufuna kupitiriza chibwenzi. Kodi kuiwala chikondi? Kodi kutaya maganizo za ubwenzi ndi kupeza ufulu mumtima?

Pa funso mmene kuiwala chikondi chake, ena amati: "Lolani!". Ndipo pali ena lolingalira, chifukwa n'zosatheka kukonda wopanda mavuto, ndipo n'kosatheka kuti zinachitikira wauzimu wa chikondi popanda kuvutika zowawa. Kulandira maganizo atsopano okha, olemba ndakatulo ndi zalembedwa zikwi ntchito zimene ali anamusilira anthu ano. Munthu amene anapeza mavuto, chikuyamba ndi gawo latsopano cha chitukuko akhoza kulimbitsa iye Zokwaniritsa kulenga. Ojambula zithunzi, analemba, Osema - onse a iwo anali mu mbiri yake ya mbiri ya chikondi unrequited ... Mwina, akuvutika ndi muyeso wa kutengeka, ndi kupeza kuthekera watsopano kukhala mlengi wa luso ndi kupeza tanthauzo latsopano la moyo.

Ngati safuna zilandiridwenso ndi kukana (mtundu wa masochistic) zatsopano yekha ndipo kwambiri anaganiza kuchotsa maganizo chikondi, ife ndikulangizeni inu kuti mudzikonzere cholembera ndi pepala ndi kuyankha funso nokha: "Kodi kuiwala chikondi?". Atamaliza ndondomeko kulemba yaing'ono mndandanda wa mungachite kwambiri openga kuchifotokoza icho. Pali nsembe awa wa kulingalira bwino? Ngati alipo, kudzayesa iwo nokha. Mu kungachititse Zitsanzo:

• Kumwa kuiwala.
• Kupita dziko lina ndi kupeza tanthauzo latsopano la moyo.
• Amatanganidwa ntchito, kupatulapo ubale ndi mabwenzi wamba ndi abwenzi la munthu wokonda kale.

Ine sindimakonda izo? Yesani kuti abwere ndi Mabaibulo awo.

Asayansi pofufuza yankho ku funso lakuti: "mmene kuiwala chikondi," anazindikira kuti mtendere wa mumtima kuyambira kulekana anu adzatha kupeza pambuyo theka la nthawi imene munali pa chibwenzi, kuti, ngati anakumana ndi okondedwa inu chaka, ndiye mu miyezi sikisi pambuyo yopuma udzakhala zosavuta. chilinganizo Izi si angwiro, ndipo ambiri pa zimene zinamuchitikira wa kuposa kamodzi adakana, koma sayansi chikuchitika.

Limbikirani kuthandiza mu funso: "mmene kuiwala chikondi choyamba", chifukwa, monga inu mukudziwa chikondi achinyamata kukhala m'maganizo mwathu muyaya. Anthu kutengeka woyamba nkomwe amene angathe kufufuta pamtima, ndipo sikuthandiza, chifukwa kuyamika ubale wako wadziwa onse wodekha ndi kumverera matsenga ufa, wotchedwa chikondi. Wanzeru yemwe uja mkulu asayansi a ku Britain kuti malingana ndi kuwerengera, amuna ndi akazi, anakumana chikondi chake choyamba pambuyo pa zaka zambiri, sangathe kulimbana ndi chiyeso "kumbukirani wakale" ambiri tikupitiriza bwenzi ena si mantha kugonana ngakhale kugona ndi zibwenzi zina. Pamapeto pake nkhani zosiyana izi. Ena, kuiwala zonse, kachiwiri choviikidwa kuphompho komwe unyamata chilakolako, pamene ena kusunga wabwinobwino, adzalanda zopsa ake onse m'maganizo.

Ngati ndinu nkhawa za mmene kuiwala chikondi, amagwa maganizo kwambiri, ife ndikulangizeni inu kuti ukatenge mu dzanja ndi kupeza mphamvu ndi moyo. Kuchita chirichonse kukumbukira zochepa za m'mbuyomu ndi kukhala ndekha naye. Kukumana ndi abwenzi ndi banja, kuphunzira ndi ntchito, kuti akakonze pa kanyumba kapena nyumba, kuchotsa zinthu, amatikumbutsa wokondedwa. Travel, nyimbo ndi mabuku - zonsezi detracted ku moyo weniweniwo, kuthana ndi amene tsopano ndinu olimba. Mutsimikizire ndi anthu padziko iwe ukhoza iyende kwambiri, koma chikondi, ngakhale kale zakale, siziboola ndodo yanu. Kondwerani nokha, kugula mphatso, kupita nyimbo, kuchita chizolowezi mumaikonda chirichonse chimene inu sakanakwanitsa, kukhala pa ubwenzi. Kumbukirani kuti zonse zimene mwachita - kwa bwino!