Midlife mavuto amuna

Akazi amene amuna awo ali aakulu kuposa makumi atatu, kumlingo bwino mfundo zovuta midlife. Iye ulipo, ngati sitinachite anamukakamiza kuti ndi - ndi akufunira ndi malingaliro a anthu amene amayesa kupereka zifukwa kuwonongedwa kwa banja. Amuna, kubwera kwa nthawi mavutowo, ndi anthu ena. Iwo akhoza mupange kachitidwe zachilendo, wosafuna kuti afotokoze makhalidwe awo. Ali zochepa amamvetsera akazi awo, ena sangathe kumvetsa khalidwe lawo, musati mungapeze tanthauzo lalikulu kusintha. Change tinganene zonyoza koopsa zimene mkazi wanga molimba mtima kuti: ". Mwamuna wanga sadzamva chomwecho kachiwiri - izo zinkawoneka kuti asintha" Kapena kuyika wotsirika, Chezetsedwa. Ambiri, nthawi zina Zikuoneka kuti kokha chotero zifukwa wosangalatsa akhoza kufotokoza zimene zikuchitika. Thirani mafuta pa moto ndi bwino - iwo amati, ubale sudzakhalanso monga kale. Mwatsoka, sitingathe kunena motsimikiza kuti abwenzi ake ndi anansi ndi cholakwika. Palibe munthu angakhoze zimatsimikizira inu kuti mwamuna wanga kukhala wodekha ndi wachikondi pambuyo tsiku yake. Komabe, sikutheka kuti palibe banja ndi payenera kutsekedwa. Ngakhale zovuta za nkhaniyi, musati muziganiza za kusudzulana nkhawa kwambiri. Midlife vuto la munthu ayenera sadzawononga zaka zingapo moyo wa mkazi wake. Yesetsani kukhala ndi ndingathere moyo chidwi mu moyo mwamuna wake, osati kuvutika ndi chisoni nokha. Pa nambala mokwanira lalikulu la amuna anasonyeza kwambiri mavuto, koma kuthetsa ndipo kumakhala zikomo kwa akazi awo.

Mid-moyo mavuto - ndi mtundu chinthu chapamwamba, pamene kuli kofunikira kuti atenge katundu wa nthawi anakhala ndi kusankha. Muyenera kusankha njira yatsopano, ndi zimene ziyenera kukhala, mwamuna sadziwa chifukwa khalidwe lake pafupi n'zosatheka. midlife mavuto zambiri overtakes munthu zaka 35-40, koma nthawi zina akhoza anachedwa kuposerapo - kuonetsa zaka makumi asanu. Ndiyeno kodi zotsatira zambiri kumaoneka kuti apoyera? zaka makumi awiri mu mnyamata anasankha kukhala mtsogoleri zaka 25. tsopano Iye ali pafupi makumi anai ndi ntchito ndiponso ngati panali, pang'ono kwambiri. Banja kamodzi chibwenzi zakhala zambiri wochezeka. Vuto - ndi mbali ya cholinga akhoza kunena kuti izi maganizo kuvutika - kanthu ngati epiphany ndi. Komabe, zotsatira zake osati kofanana, kapena ngakhale konse, monga iwe mkazi. Mkazi ndinalota kuti tsiku lina mwamuna atazindikira kuti si mwayi kwambiri moyo - osati kuti mnansi Peter. Pambuyo mwamuna ngati luntha, mogwirizana ndi maganizo a mkazi wake, ayenera mofulumira kugunda ntchito kuposa mnzake. Koma kwenikweni, mwamuna wanga sachita chilichonse, koma zonse kukwiya.

munthu m'kati kuda nkhawa - sichifa mwina ankakhala, koma palibe kwambiri sanathe anafika. Mbali A yamavuto ndi chakuti zomwe wakale munthu ayamba kuonedwa zonyozeka pankhani zovuta midlife, zikuoneka kuti zonse anafunafuna pamaso - kanthu ndi achabechabe, anakhala osati monga sikuthandiza, ndi kuyamba moyo watsopano ina. Amuna pansi makumi Mwina angaganize kuti iwo adzipereka kwambiri nthawi ena, kuiwala ponena za iwo, kotero nthawi zambiri m'ng'anjo maelstrom zinakuchitikirani latsopano ndi yamunthu. Komabe, iwo amakhala mosintha kusintha pafupifupi chilichonse m'moyo uno - chilengedwe ntchito, nthawi zina kuyesera kuti ndichokepo banja. Nthawi zina chigweranso kuti munthu chimakwirira maganizo. Iye sanali ndikudabwa akukhala kukumbukira kokha zakale ndipo akuganiza kodi Onse pamodzi, ngati anakwaniritsa maloto a unyamata wake.

Pali amuna amene pafupifupi mosadziwa ndipo popanda kumva ululu uliwonse kuthetsa vuto la pakati zaka. Psychology chikuchita ndi kuphunzira nthawi imeneyi, ndipo ife tikhoza kunena motsimikiza kuti anthu awa pang'ono ndithu. Choyamba, anthu amene amayenda bwino wotanganidwa ndi zinthu mumakonda, kubweretsa ndalama wabwino. Amene mwangwiro kuzindikira kuthekera kuntchito, munthu mu banja chikondi ndi mokhudza ubwenzi. Komanso, mavuto a alandire padziko lino mtundu wa anthu amene safuna yosanthula moyo wake umene amangowakumbukira pano. M'mawu ena, vuto si imaonekera kwa anthu amene tikugwira ndipo amene alibe nthawi kulingalira - palibenso nthawi. anthu amenewa ubwenzi wabwino mu banja, pali kukhulupirirana ndi kulemekezana. Ndithudi, sitingathe kunena kuti ena alibe makhalidwe amenewa. Monga zotsala awo ang'onoang'ono a zigawo zikuluzikulu zofunika kwambiri chikondi kufa chifukwa cha kulemera kwa moyo ndi kuipidwa mangawawo.

Kulekerera midlife mavuto kungakupindulitseni m'njira zambiri, koma pali bokosi wamba makhalidwe onsewa - munthu kusintha moyo kabwerebwere, pamene kusunga kuchokera mkazi wake.

Kwambiri zokayikitsa Mbali - kuoneka bwenzi. Izi zachitika kupanga kuwala chizolowezi, apachiyambi. Mwamuna wautali kuposa masiku ataima pa galasi, kuyesera kuyang'ana wamng'ono. Iwo akhoza kwambiri kuyamba thanzi lawo kuti akhoza kukhala ndi opanda. munthu sichitha kuganiza za akanakhala moyo wake, kamodzi njira zosiyanasiyana. Izi imakhudzanso kusankha ntchito, malo okhala, mkazi wake. mwamuna wanu angakhale chatsekedwa ngati mavutowo anali chothandizira kwa vuto lililonse kovuta. Man flips mapulani banja kuleza anakonza.

Theoretically, pali mfundo zingapo muyenera kutsatira mkaziyo mu nthawi yovuta ndi mwamuna wake.

Choyamba - kuleza mtima, koma khutu chakuti boma munthu ukhoza chaka kapena zaka zisanu. Yesetsani kuti nthawi yomweyo kupondereza mkwiyo. Pasanathe zingasokoneze chilekano, anadandaula kulumbira. Pa nthawi yomweyo, kuyesera kutero kuti nthawi wotanganidwa ndi pakati-zaka mavuto, mwamuna wake si atasiya moyo wanu. Musati kuganizira kwambiri za vutolo, munthu angathe amaona kuti ndi chisoni ndipo wayamba revel mu izo.

... ndipo kudzatha. Mulimonsemo, kuleza mtima ndi azidzidalira inu, akazi wokondedwa!