"Otani" ubwenzi: chifukwa muyenera kusiya izo?

Anthu zolengedwa analandira chikhalidwe. Ambiri a ife amakonda kukhala gulu phokoso la anzawo ndiponso achibale. Zimenezi zimatithandiza kusangalala ndi gawo nazo. A chitsanzo chabwino cha kukuchititsa zimenezi kuphulika posachedwapa kutchuka Intaneti. Monga mukuonera, anthu ofunitsitsa kucheza ndi mwachangu kufunafuna mfundo zokhudzana ndi mzake.

Dr. Arthur Aron, mkulu wa Laboratory ubale lotha pa yunivesite ya miyala Brook: "ubwenzi ndi zofunika kwambiri thanzi la munthu, ndipo zimenezi si zodabwitsa. Pali maphunziro ambiri amene asonyeza malumikizanidwe pakati pa maganizo ndi boma maganizo.

Kufunika ochezeka

Asayansi ali kotero ntchito kufotokoza kufunika anthu ubwenzi: ubongo wathu zachitika njira zamoyo zinachita kuti zooneka njira zina omwe amalamulira akufuna kulowa a moyo. Choncho, mu kotekisi oziziritsa ubongo ndi zone wotchedwa neocortex, kapena makungwa latsopano. Anthu, dipatimenti imeneyi zambiri kuposa nyama zina. Neocortex ndi amene kukondoweza kwa cognition apamwamba chikhalidwe, chifundo, luso kumvetsa maganizo ndi zolinga za ena. Mwatsoka, nkhani zimenezi ndi bwino yapangidwa anthu ena.

zobweza umunthu

Ngakhale panali umboni ambiri neurobiological kuzindikira zosowa za munthu mu ochezeka, iwo amati kanthu za chikhumbo cha anthu kukhazikitsa ndi ubale wathanzi. Koma, monga ife tikudziwa tsopano, ena angakhale zobweza thanzi lathu maganizo ndi thupi. Choncho pali "anthu poizoni" - abwenzi, poizoni miyoyo yathu ndipo amati ali yekha zosowa zawo. N'chifukwa chiyani muyenera amakana kulankhula ndi munthu wotereyu? Choyamba Ife timayang'ana pa zomwe ndi "poizoni" ubwenzi.

Kodi "poizoni" ubwenzi?

Kuzindikira mu bwenzi lake zobweza umunthu, kuyankha mafunso wamba ochepa:

• bwenzi lako limakupunthwitsa osangalala?
• Iwo amakakamiza inu kuchira?
• Iwo amalankhula inu ndi "chisoni ndi chimwemwe"?
• Kodi mumachita zinthu moona mtima ndi mnzanu, ziribe kanthu momwe n'zovuta?
• Kodi munthu uyu amadziwa bwino inu, ngakhale sukuona?
• ngati iye chimakakamiza inu?

Ngati mwayankha kuti athane ndi mafunso ambiri, bwenzi lanu nthumwi olemekezeka a anthu "poizoni".

Munthu uyu angathe kukupwetekani inu ndi sapepesa. Iye amayembekezera mtima wanu popanda kupereka andichitire zomwezo. Iwo amalankhula inu kuti athandize, chifukwa iye ankakonda kutenga nthawi zonse, koma osiyanitsidwa ntchito atrophied. Mu kuyankhulana ndi sachedwa moto sewero kukokomeza ndi dissipate maganizo momuzungulira. zochita zake zonse ndi mawu kwathunthu kutsutsa mfundo "ubwenzi". Pali wina "koma" kuchokera zobweza ubwenzi ndi zovuta kuchotsa. mnzanu aphata inu ngati leech a. Iye adzayesa mukusunga kupitiriza kusangalala mtima wanu.

Mtima kupewa asapita nadzawasankhula

bwenzi poizoni amadziwa zofooka zanu zonse. Akudziŵa bwino makhalidwe anu zabwino kuti sadzakusiyani inu kusiya ndi mwamuna wina, kamodzi kwa nthawi zonse. Inu adzaima iye pambali chifukwa cha chifundo, kukoma mtima kapena chisoni. Nthawi zina mukhoza kuphimba poopa kuti kusiyidwa kulankhulana mudzakhala kuvutitsa munthu ameneyo. Ndiye inu mumayamba kulungamitsa zochita ndiponso zolinga bwenzi lake, anasonyeza kuti makhalidwe amenewa kulibe. Koma bwanji ngati ife tiyang'ana pa zinthu ku njira ina? Mupitiriza kukokera pa "poizoni" bwenzi, ndipo akhoza kutumiza mphamvu zabwino m'njira yabwino. Pali anthu abwino kwambiri mu chilengedwe.

Monga anthu awa chiphe moyo wanu?

Mu anthu potsimikizira-zipatso zambiri zosasangalatsa. Mmodzi wa iwo ndi mbali ya kukoka mu mphamvu zake mundandanda positive. Ndipotu, ndi mphamvu MIZUKWA. Ndinu wokonzeka kusiya zina mwa zinthu zawo mkati ndi munthu amene sindingathawe zikomo chifukwa cha izo? Okoma - ndi wabwino, koma okhawo amene amafuna thandizo. Ngati tikulankhula zinthu mochenjera, amachita monga ballast chachikulu, chimene posapita nthawi adzakhala sachedwa inu kuphompho.

Kusankha amazindikira

Iwalani za maganizo a anthu ndi ena mnzanu chabe. Uyu sadzakhala kusintha chirichonse, ndipo izo nthawizonse kupitiriza n'kudziphatika kwa mzere awo. Mukundikhulupirira ine, ngati inu mukufuna inu mosavuta kutuluka paziyangoyango za maubwenzi "poizoni". Kusankha amazindikira ndi kuthera mphamvu zanu pa munthu amene akuyenera izo. Ndiyeno inu kumverera aakulu!