N'chifukwa chiyani anthu ena kugwa m'chikondi ndi achibale?

Kwa zaka zambiri, nkhani ya chikondi kugona maziko a ntchito kwambiri luso ndi mabuku. Komabe, izi si zoona kuti nkhani za chilakolako misala pachibale. Wachibale mabuku nkomwe kukakamiza kuti mutsatire zimene zikuchitika bleary-eyed ku kulira. M'malo mwake, iwo imautsa adzafune kusanza, nseru. Mulimonsemo, zimenezo anachita anauza ambiri, pamene 51 wazaka Kim West ndi mwana wake 32 wazaka Ben Ford nawo ndi dziko nkhani yake.

nkhani yachikondi

Zonse zinayamba khumi zapitazo, pamene wamng'ono Kim anabereka mwana wamwamuna. Komabe, mfundo banja mkazi ankanyansidwa ndipo anasiya mwana sabata pambuyo pa kubadwa kwake. Patapita zaka, munthu wamkulu Ben anachita monga ambiri a ana obadwa ndi - anaganiza kulankhula ndi mayi ake kwachilengedwenso. Kenako chinthu china chinachitika chimene chinayambitsa dziko dotoro mu kunyansidwa. Mayi ndi mwana osati kukakhalanso, ndipo analenga chikondi wamphumphu.

Mu kuyankhulana ndi West anavomereza kuti choyamba zogonana. za mwana wake anaonekera pa iye nthawi yomweyo kuti Ford anayesa kupeza Intaneti umboni kuti sali yekha kulandira chilakolako chithupithupi kwa mayi ake. Kenako, iwo anakomana ku hotelo, ndipo pamene makhalidwe zikuyenela chimango anali mwankhanza achotsa mowa nawo kama yemweyo.

Choncho ndinayamba kukhala pa ubwenzi kuti Kumadzulo monga "zidzasintha" anafotokoza. Ford ndi kungakuthandizeni mfundoyi maganizo, chifukwa, musazengereze kusiya mkazi wake mayi ake. Pambuyo kutsegula atolankhani, banjali linali ndi mantha kutenga zaka 15 m'ndende ndipo anali mu chiwerengero cha kugonana olakwa.

maganizo zimayambitsa

Komabe, Kim ndi Ben, odzipereka oletsedwa chikhalidwe akhoza ayenerere ena zokambirana, osachepera pa mlingo ndi zamoyo zinachita. Siyani pa nthawi ya zipilala za kuthedwa nzeru ndi mkwiyo ndi kuyesa kufufuzanso mu vuto. Ndipotu zolakwika aliyense kugonana ndi muzu awo mavuto a maganizo.

Mukhoza kudabwa kuti amuna mwamuna ndi mkazi m'posavuta kuti kupereka akazi zokonda, ngati amayi awo, komanso akazi kusankha anthu, akuwakumbutsa za makolo awo. zodabwitsazi mu kuwerenga maganizo wotchedwa imprinting positive. Kutsimikizira analephera sayansi asayansi ku Iceland. Nditakhala phunziro 2008, iwo anapezeka kuti achibale ndi mwayi wotulutsa ambiri ana athanzi kuposa awiri mwachizolowezi. Pakali pano, pali mfundo "imprinting zoipa," kapena mavuto Westermark. Pankhaniyi munthu wokanayo kukopa aliyense kugonana kwa anthu amene anali kukhala monga mwana, kuphatikizapo makolo, abale ndi alongo.

Kotero, mwina, Kuphatikiza imprinting zabwino ndi kusowa kwake Baibulo zoipa anachititsa khalidwe chowawa Ben Ford?

zotsatira zokhumudwitsa

Zamaganizo Judith Venben Smith ananena kuti anthu amene analibe m'banja wathanzi ana, akuyesetsa kuti alepheretse thupi ndi maganizo chitonthozo cha chilakolako chogonana. Komabe, iwo akhoza kuchita mosiyana. Chinthu chikondi chawo, mu nkhani iyi, izo zimakhala wachibale. Izi si wachiwiri osati matenda, malinga ndi Judith, iyi ndi njira imene munthu kuyankha malingaliro omwe angabuke pamene kukumananso ndi okondedwa, amene analekanitsidwa ndi kuti zogonana.

Komabe, kuphatikizidwa pa ubwenzi chifukwa chokhala amphamvu maganizo "misfire" kungakhale doubly choopsa. The anthu wachibale chikondi wakhala ndipo adzakhala mutu taboo, ndi anthu amene anapita kwa pachibale, ndi pangozi olekanitsidwa anthu. Komanso, iwo nthawizonse kutaya mwayi kuti azikondana banja wathanzi.