Masitaelo waukulu kulankhulana anthu, komanso udindo wa civility anthu

Tonsefe tsiku lililonse timakumana ndi kufunikira kulankhulana zonse mu malo achitukuko. Anthu ena monga izo, ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito mpata uliwonse kulankhula ndi anthu. Ena, Mosiyana, funani kuti azipeza kudziteteza ku anthu ndi cholinga pa nokha. Mulimonsemo, zolankhulirana ayenera kudziwa munthu aliyense, monga izi chingamulepheretse osiyanasiyana mukakhala mikangano, omwe ndi ofala kwambiri masiku ano.

A kupenda mosamala nkhondo iliyonse chimasonyeza kuti akuchokera, monga ulamuliro, ndi kusadziwa anthu ena chifukwa cha mankhwala wosiyana a zochitika zosiyanasiyana, komanso mosiyana ndi tanthauzo la zinthu mwachizolowezi. Komanso, munthu aliyense kuyesera kutsimikizira mfundo zawo, Popereka umboni wawo. The chododometsa kuti pamene mkangano woterowo anthu asiye kumva ndi pomvetsetsana ndi maganizo chabe kukulitsa wodzisunga kuzindikira zambiri. Popewa izi zinachitika, anthu ndondomeko yake chitukuko zachitika angapo malamulo ena apadera ndi malamulo ndi zomwe anthu angathe zachikhalidwe tilankhule wina ndi mnzake popanda kugwira mmene munthu.

Mabaibulo osiyanasiyana kulankhulana chifukwa mosiyana kucheza ndi kuyembekezera zotsatira za izo. Munthu aliyense adzakhala zothandiza kuphunzira za masitaelo, monga osati kukuza M'maso wake, koma tiyeni mukudziwa zolinga woona wa munthu wonyamula kulankhula ndi maganizo ena.

Choncho zimenezi ndi masitaelo yaikulu ya kulankhulana kuwerenga maganizo, amene amagwiritsidwa ntchito panopo anthu pakati pa anthu:

1. Mwambo kulankhulana kalembedwe. Ndi mzimu waubwenzi wa anthu wina ndi mzake, komanso mndandanda wa mawu muyezo ndi mawu omwe anthu amagwiritsa ntchito pamene iwo akumana. Izi zikhoza monga mawu monga "Muli bwanji?" "Kodi latsopano?" Ndipo zotero. Mu nkhani iyi, anapanga njira yomweyo yankho waulemu, kaya bwino boma lenileni la zochitika anthu. Koma pali kutsutsana akupitiriza zamaganizo ndi maphunziro chikhalidwe, amene sakhoza zija yotsimikizika ngati nthawi zonse muyenera kukakumana ndi muyezo inayake mawu kapena ayi.
2. Achiwembu kalembedwe kulankhulana. Wokwanira mtundu yeniyeni khalidwe ndi cholinga ndicho zimakhudza munthu wina kupyola mu mndandanda wa chikhulupiriro ndi umboni wakuti angathe kuchitidwa obisika. kalembedwe ano anthu ndi zachilendo mwa nthumwi ya zolengeza malonda alangizi, amene kumalankhula bwinobwino ndi kasitomala pa mlingo wa chikumbumtima kuyesera kutsimikizira kuti agule katundu.
3. Motelo kulankhulana kalembedwe. Ndipotu, kalembedwe authoritarian, ozikidwa pa chilakolako cha munthu mmodzi pogonjetsa zina ndi chikhalidwe cha malangizo kalaliki. Chakale chiwembu cha kulankhulana ndi chitsanzo 'bwana - Kumvetsela, "komwe munthu wapatsidwa mphamvu kuti kumupatsa ufulu woteteza khalidwe la munthu wina. Tiyeneranso kusamala kumwa, chifukwa ngati njira zolankhulirana monga kuvomerezedwa, nkhanza ungathe nkhondo.
4. Zaumunthu. Maziko kulankhulana ili ndi maonekedwe a kukambirana ndi wocheza imene anthu kuphunzira za zokonda, maganizo ndi zofuna za mzake. kalembedwe Zimenezi n'zofunika kwambiri kuti tikwaniritse bwinobwino mangawawo.

Tikumbukenso kuti anthu onse bwino kusankha kalembedwe makamaka kulankhulana. Kwambiri basi amatenga yokha kalembedwe zina za khalidwe ndi kulankhulana ndi ndi kucheza kunyalanyaza ena mokoma m'njira zambiri, zomwe zitha kusiyanitsa zamaganizo. Ndi mu umenewu uli chifukwa mkangano zinthu ndi mwano maganizo a anthu kwa wina ndi mnzake. Mulimonsemo, nthawi zonse muyenera mukhale manja awo, ndipo ngakhale munthu uli wozingidwa ndi maganizo, Mulimonsemo osati kuwaza iwo pa anthu ena. Sankhani masitaelo kulankhula za amene amathandiza kuti kumvana, ndi kuyesa asakhudze munthu. Nthawi zonse kugwiridwa serially ndi mtendere wa mumtima kuti adzakupatsani ulemu kwa ena.