Kuphunzira Chikondi

Chikondi munthu, kupeza woyenera, banja kamodzi kwa nthawi zonse. Real m'banja, kodi chikondi moyo. Kodi kukwaniritsa chimwemwe m'banja, chinsinsi cha maphunziro ake?

Aliyense wa ife ali zathu, zomwe ziribe kufanana ndi zina, chikhalidwe, malingaliro kukoma, kwambiri zosowa zosiyana ndi zofuna. Koma pali moyo wa chinachake chimene, akapanda ichi munthu aliyense sangathe. Izi - chikondi. Chikondi aliyense akufuna. Koma bwanji kuzindikira ichi ndi chizindikiro chachikulu cha moyo wa munthu?

Ine sanapeze kukumana mmodzi moyo. Ine ndinakwatira, ana, koma chikondi ife sanandiphunzitse. Funso ndi lakuti: kodi ife kukwatiwa? Popanda chikondi? Inde, ine ndikumverera palibe chikondi. Kudutsa ndi kulandira chondichitikira chaching'ono, ndinganene kuti amange banja chikondi - n'zosatheka! Kunena kuti ine sanali mwamuna wanga m'tsogolo, ine sindingakhoze. Inde, Ine anaikonda, koma kenanso. Zinali kumulakalaka, koma sakonda. Choyamba, ndinkafuna kuti akhale wanga. Wamba lingaliro la kudzikonda. Monga momwe ine ndikufuna galimoto yabwino ulemerero zabwino. Ndinagwa mchikondi ndi maso ake okongola, mokondwera khalidwe, asamangochita zimene akufuna, kwinakwake kupirira.

Zofuna zathu zinali kuyaka, kuwotchedwa ndi koopsa mu bonfire yaikulu. Ndi zodabwitsa, ndi izo zinali zopambana pakadali pano. Koma pamene ine ndinapereka kubereka, khalidwe langa, kwinakwake zasintha anga dziko lamkati, ndipo mwamuna wake, ndiye wanga, motero, anagwa mchikondi ndi chinachake ine chimene ine ndinali kale mimba: wokongola, wochepa, mokondwera, osasamala mtsikana. Koma nthawi zosiyana. M'kupita kwa nthawi, moyo ndinapitirira. Tsiku lililonse, Ndinadziwa kuti akuchoka chilakolako, chikondi, koma siyachilendo kumeneko. Kapena m'malo wabwino ndi kuunika. M'malo mwake, timakhala kukwiya poyerekezera ndi mzake, ankhanza uninteresting wina ndi mzake; anthu amene sasamala za moyo wa wina, mwakuwoneka wokondedwa. banja lathu analibe kupitiriza. Okhala m'dera lomwelo, aliyense wamoyo miyoyo yawo. Ndipo Patapita zaka zingapo, ine anazindikira kuti chikondi samabwera monga choncho. Izi ndi kumverera kodabwitsa kuphunzira. Ndipo kuphunzira kuposa chaka chimodzi. Chikondi ayenera kukulitsa, asamalidwe, kuyamwitsa. Kumulakalaka, chikondi akupita. Ndipo mu banja limene mwamuna ndi mkazi musayese ndipo yesetsani kuti nthaka mzake mwa "zazing'ono" wodzipereka, sangathe kuchotsa m'mbali lakuthwa cha khalidwe lake, barbs wake wina ndi mnzake, banja n'kugwa ngati mchenga m'linga, amene sanathe kuwasandutsa ndi mpanda wolimba chilengedwe.

Ndipotu, chikondi - zosatha, chifukwa, kukwatira, ife kupanga banja kwa moyo. Ndipo si dziko lokha, komanso la Kumwamba. Chikondi sanali wodzikonda, chifukwa tikondana si chinachake, koma basi. Chifukwa iye ndi mwamuna wanu - zabwino kapena zoipa, aliuma kapena mwamtendere, anzeru kapena ayi, mkulu kapena otsika - koma kusiyana kotani! Pamene inu mukonda maonekedwe ziribe kanthu. Ndi chikondi - osati muzindikire zolakwitsa. Pamene tikonda ana athu, timakonda makolo athu? Basi chifukwa iwo ali athu.

Chikondi - nsembe iyi, imene chingakhale zinthu zazing'ono, ndi moyo wathu tichipeza iwo. M'malo penyani masewera, munthu apite ndi ntchito ndi ana. Izo kale wodzipereka chifukwa cha m'banja, chifukwa cha okondedwa. Kuti athe kusiya zofuna zawo, kuti athe osati kukhala wokwiya, osati okwiya, si mlandu, koma chikondi.

Ine, mwatsoka, kodi anaphunzira kukonda M'banja loyamba, ngakhale kuti anayesetsa. Tsopano yang'anani, ponena kuti sakonda anabadwa, ine ndikuganiza, izo zimapangitsa sazindikira. Mu mawu a munthu wina mu filimu: "Ngati banja amene amapita cholakwika, mlandu awiri - mwamuna ndi mkazi."

Komabe, ndingofuna kuphunzira chikondi. Tiyeni nthawi yoyamba sizinatero. Kuphunzira kukonda, m'pofunika kusintha chinachake nokha. Kapena kuti ndikumane ndi amene angakuthandizeni mu izi. Chinthu chachikulu si mofulumira, chikondi salola mwachangu, zachabechabe, kumusangalatsa, wapamwamba. Pali lamulo la moyo wauzimu: phindu zambiri, mphamvu mkati mwa mphamvu sadalira pa mphamvu za mawonekedwe awo akunja. Kugwedezekagwedezeka zakukhosi, maganizo adakali otentha simuyankhula za kuya awo. kumverera Real kwenikweni zikuwoneka modzichepetsa, mwakachetechete, inconspicuously.

Ine ndikuganiza ndinakumana munthu woteroyo, ngakhale ine sindifika patsogolo. Ine basi kuti ndikuchita kusintha, kusintha maganizo anga mu njira yabwino, m'njira, wotchedwa - Chikondi.