Cholinga cha moyo?

Munthu amene wafika chinthu chofunika wa zaka 30, monga ulamuliro, akuyamba kuganizira za cholinga cha moyo wake. Safunira yankho, ena satero. Pa nthawi yomweyo, akale sangapereke yankho ndithu kuti wachiwiri. Chifukwa chiyani? Pa mafunso izi ndi zina ine yesani kuyankha.

Ndipo ine tiyambe ndi choona kuti palokha funso ili: "Kodi cholinga cha moyo" si yankho. Chifukwa kuti ndi yankho lolondola, "tanthauzo la moyo mu moyo weniweniwo," monga ulamuliro, sakuvomereza. Choncho, Ine akamufunsirire, choyamba nokha. Ndiyeno, m'moyo uno wokha. Lang'anani, kunandithandiza.

Ndiyambe kufufuza anga ndi losavuta, mafunso m'mbali kuti: "? Ndipo kodi kwenikweni, ine ndikufuna", "Kodi ine ndimakonda", "Kodi ine ndikufuna kuchita", etc.

Si zophweka kuyankha nokha mafunso otsatirawa. Chifukwa taphunzira moyo wanga wonse kuletsa chilakolako chawo kubisa iwo. Kotero iwo ali chobisika. Inde, nthawi zina kwambiri kuti zimatenga nthawi kukumba!

Nenani inu mukumvetsa zimene mukufuna. Komabe, kunapezeka kuti angakwanitse kuchita ngati akufuna zovuta. Choyamba, choopsa (izo chigweranso), ndipo kachiwiri, "zilibe kanthu." Choncho, vuto loyamba pa njira yake - kugonjetsa mantha awo olakwika.

Ndipotu palibe cholakwika kwa Musalole kukhala choncho, ngati inu! Ndikhulupirireni, kodi inu monga kupuma mwayamba kumvetsera kwa nokha, anayamba kugwira chilakolako kanthu zoopsa zidzachitika! Komano, kulola ubwino ndi kuipa zimapezeka, inu potero kupeza njira yanu woona ku ungwiro!

Kuthana olakwika "zilibe" zimatengera pa revaluation cha mfundo zawo. Tsopano, zofunika kwambiri munthu kwa inu - inu! Only mukhoza moyo wanu momwe mukufuna, mukhoza kokha kuchita bwino zilakolako zawo zonse. Icho chaperekwa yekha kwa inu kudziwa tanthauzo la moyo wake. Onse "ayenera", "ayenera" ndi ntchito zina, kumene tikhoza musaiwaliretu. Koma iwo ayenera kupeza kagawo kakang'ono ake mu dongosolo lanu phindu, zosowa panokha. Kumene, munthu wabwinobwino, funso uyu adzachititsa gulu la zotsutsana. Pa nkhani imeneyi mukhoza kuwerenga nkhani za Erich Fromm chikondi. Tanthauzo ndi kuonetsetsa kuti egoist, si iye amene sakonda ena, ndi amene sakonda yekha. Inu sangatsutsike ndi anazindikira nzeru zapamwamba, Katswiri ndi psychoanalyst?

Tiyeni tinene inu zapita gawo loyamba la zovuta kwambiri. Ndipo Musalole kuchita zinthu mumakonda. Koma pano pali zingapo mavuto. Aliyense mwa mavuto awa eni. Iwo zigwirizana kufunika kupanda ungwiro onse kuti akatchinge kapena salola kuti bwino ntchito yawo, kuti akwaniritse zolinga zawo. Choncho, zotsatirazi ndi ntchito zanu ndi mavuto pabanja bwino, kuzindikira. Kachiwiri, mabvuto, mavuto kugonjetsa ndi ntchito pa nokha. Ndipo popanda m'njira iliyonse.

Mu ndondomeko izi zonse n'kofunika kuphunzira kudzilimbitsa ndi kutakasuka, kulandiridwa. Popanda luso zazikulu inu simukhala kupita chitsogolo.

Ndipo pamene inu apeza mphamvu kutsegula okha kudziwa okha, kumvetsa okha, kukwaniritsa ndi kukondweretsa nokha pamene muli panjira bwino (kapena kale tachikwaniritsa), ndiye m'pofunika kuti anamufunsa kuti: "Kodi tanthauzo la moyo wanga" kapena, monga ena chodabwitsa, "lanji wanga anthu?" (ngati inu sanalandirebe yankho mafunso awa ...)

Funso lakuti "? lanji wanga anthu" Kodi yankho: "mwayi wanga kuti ndili. Ine anabwera padziko lapansi lino mwa chifuniro cha Mulungu, zikutanthauza kuti anali kale m'lingaliro. Komanso ndakhala kuchita ntchito yawo. Anthu kuona ntchito yanga ndi kuzindikira. Izi zikutanthauza Ine ndine wofunika. " Poyamba ine ndimaganizira mawu amenewa mobwerezabwereza ngati mawu ena a. Ngakhale sadakhulupirira.

Kachiwiri, kupeza mtendere, yosangalala.

Mpaka yankho likubwerera. Zimenezi zingakhale zinthu ziliri pa moyo. Pamene inu kukhala mu mkhalidwe omasuka tasankha njira wokhulupirika ndi zogwirizana ndi kumvetsetsa kuti ndi njira yako. Izi zikhoza kukhala lingaliro m'buku, nanena Woitana pa TV. Yankho akhoza kubwera kuchokera kulikonse. Ndipo akubwera mu maonekedwe a chidziwitso akuti: "Ichi ndi changa."

Ndiyeno chirichonse chikuchitika mu chithunzi chooneka bwino ndi losavuta. "Ndimakhala kuti ntchito pa nokha, kusintha moyo wako. Tanthauzo la moyo wanga uli mu moyo weniweniwo. " Ndipo tsopano mawu awa kwa inu si phokoso kanthu, ndi nzeru zosaneneka ndi bwino kwambiri tanthauzo lalikulu la moyo wake ...

Zabwino mukufufuza!