Kukhulupirira ena n'kutani? Yonena: yonena vuto. Trust: makoti

M'madikishonale zosiyanasiyana kukhulupirira wotchedwa mtima wonse wa kuwona mtima, ndi oona mtima, okhulupirika ndi oona mtima wa munthu. Yonena samabwera kwa free, chinthu ichi zimadalira zinthu zingapo. Munthu poyamba dyera kunyindira dokotala ku zipatala wotchuka, maganizo ulamuliro anazindikira ina munda kapena moyo sayansi okondedwa, ofanana mu maonekedwe ndi wokondedwa. kukhulupirira ena n'kutani?

Inu mungakhoze kukhulupirira izo kapena ayi?

Ubale watsopano nthawi zonse kupambana, kusamalira, ndiponso kutsimikizira kukhulupirirana. Anthu mungakhoze kukhulupirira, chikumbumtima kapena ndimosadziwa. zochita zake, makalata pakati nkuti ndi kuchita angakhale wotsimikiza za kudzipereka kapena kukweza kukayikitsa chinyengo. Pakati pa Messiah ndi zochita ziyenera zonse zikugwirizana. imfa Apo ayi mosalephera cha chikhulupiriro amapatsirana. Ana salinso kudalira makolo awo, amene kunama kapena kukana lonjezo. Ndi akulu pali chimodzimodzi kwa ana. Kuswa asapita yaitali Frank ndi Muzikhala bwino ndi anzanu kapena zibwenzi chifukwa cha kulankhula zopanda ndipo anasonyeza zosiyanasiyana zochita.

Ngakhale zinthu zofunika kwambiri mwina si nthaŵi zonse tanthauzo lenileni la munthu. Kuti tsiku ndi tsiku, zochita chizolowezi kuulula mbali zambiri za umunthu.

Okhulupirika komanso odalirika

Internal zina zopanda chilungamo mwachilengedwe kumverera kungakupatseni chitetezo, mukhoza "Ndinapereka" munthu mkulu chitetezo koyefishienti. Choncho yesani pano kuti tipeze kukhulupirira zimene! Kukhulupirira chitetezo munthu, azimuwona kwa dziko mkati kungathandize nthabwala wankhanza ndi kwambiri kudalira munthu.

Izi si lingaliro umboni, nthawi zonse amatanthauza munthu zenizeni. Total kudalira zinthu zonse, ndipo zonse oopsa. Kokha munthu amene ali mwamtheradi zinachitikira moyo ndi mantha. N'chifukwa chake ana aang'ono kaŵirikaŵiri mukukhulupirira wamkulu aliyense.

The chibadwa cha zitetezeke kuteteza munthu amene amadziŵa kale zimene wanyengedwa kukhulupirirana. Vuto la kukhulupirira, wotetezedwa maganizo alipo kumene (kapena lomaliza) zoipa zokumana kugwirizana ndi nkhanza omasukirana mu ubwenzi kapena malonda.

Iye akufunafuna anthu "kumbali"

Zamaganizo asonyeza kuti anthu amene amakonda kusintha akazi awo, sichoncho "zimphona za kugonana." Nthawi zambiri, anthu amenewa ndi kusadzidalira. Wosatha kusintha zibwenzi kumawonjezera "omva" ndi "kuzizira" wa munthu yekhayo mu maso ake.

Mabanja ena chabe sangathe kapena sakufuna kucheza mwamtendere, kupikisana ndi mzake. bwenzi moyo zochokera Mnyozo mwagwirizana ndi atamunamizira. Only posintha chikhalidwe kulankhulana, kuphunzira kumvetsera mwatcheru ndi kutenga mawu ndi zofuna za "theka", inu mukhoza kubwerera chikhulupiriro ndi chikondi.

Zimayambitsa kusakhulupirika wamkazi - mutu ndi wosavuta. Ena madona m'njira maganizo kufunafuna kuganizira za umunthu wake. Mulimonsemo, iwo akhoza kumva, koma si zifukwa.

10 njira mosavuta asadalire (malangizo oipa)

Palibe bwino safuna kuti anthu asiye kum'khulupirira, anayamba kukayikira yodalirika ake ndi zoona. Komabe, mfundo ndi nthawi sizitero. Podziwa kuti kumabweretsa imfa ya yonena kuti mukayikire udindo, n'zotheka kufotokoza ndi zobweza kukhulupirira. Kotero, zidule pang'ono kutaya udindo wa "odalirika munthu":

• nthawi zonse kumwetulira lonse "mazira" (zamalonda) kapena skrivlennoy kumbali kumwetulira;
• kawirikawiri muyenera kupulumutsa pa malonjezo awo;
• kuyiwala za makhalidwe abwino ndi malamulo koyenela ndi malamulo;
• ntchito njira kulankhulana a "kunama kabwerebwere";
• nthawi zonse kunyalanyaza zofuna za anthu owazungulira;
• anyalanyaza banja lake ndi ntchito;
• mosavuta adzaperekana ndi kusintha;
• Kawirikawiri kusintha mkazi wake;
• konse kutenga udindo;
• nthawi zambiri mwamasewera, monga iwo amati, "pa maganizo anu."

Ngati nthawi zonse ntchito mauthenga ena njira yosavuta khumi inu mwamsanga kupeza udindo wa mfulu kwa onse udindo ndi nsembe anthu.

Kodi kulemba za kukhulupirira anazindikira mabuku otchuka

Palibe maphikidwe konsekonse pa zobweza kukhulupirira anataya. Quotes ndi maganizo anazindikira akuluakulu kunena za chowonadi, chikondi ndi chinyengo.

• "Mu chikondi sipangakhale kuperekedwa, ndipo ndi chiyambi ndi mapeto ... iye wosakonda kwina." (V. Dudincev.)
• "A kugona zambiri kusiya kuposa chinyengo." (A. Maurois).
• "Chilango wakhala wabodza si kuti sakhulupirira, koma kuti iye sakhulupirira aliyense ayi." (GB Shaw).
• "Plain ndipo ambiri chinyengo chifukwa - chilakolako kuonera okha, osati anthu." (L. N. Tolstoy).

Ndingatani kuphunzira kukhulupirira ena

Maganizo anachita, katundu wa resentments zapitazi, zobisika kwambiri mu chikumbumtima, akhoza kusokoneza munthu kusamalira moyo wake wonse nthawi ina. kudalira yekha, iye amadalira ena. Choonadi akale anati kuti zimene munthuyo, kotero amaona anthu ena. Choncho, choyamba tiyenera kuyang'ana pa makhalidwe awo khalidwe, chinachake kusintha, kuphunzira mtima ndi kuona mtima, omasukirana ndi kukhulupirika. Kuvomereza kuti, munthu amazindikira kuti kukhulupirira, tiziyamikira ndi moyo wosangalala.

Kodi kuti ayambenso ubale otaika

ena Trust si nthawi zonse. Ngati munthu angathe kugwiritsa ntchito maganizo wochezeka mwa anthu kuchita zofuna zawo, ngakhale pafupi, kumukonda adzachita zinthu ngati zomwezi. Kulibiretu chitsimikizo cha kukhulupirika, udindo ndiponso kudalirika. Komabe, ngati munthu akufuna kusintha ndipo adzachira maudindo awo otayika, iye angakhoze kuchitira izo motere:

• Choyamba, tiyenera kuzindikira mfundo ya zinachitika kale, woukira boma kapena zonama;
• kopindulitsa ndi mnzake ufulu mkwiyo, mkwiyo ndi ukali;
• sangathe kulungamitsa yokha, m'pofunika kumanganso mkati dongosolo pulogalamuyo;
• M'pofunika zoperewerazo kuzindikira, kuti kuchepetsa mavuto anabweretsa ndi mnzake ndi;
• ndatopa katundu kupalamula, si koyenera kuti udzu kunyengedwa ndi chikhululukiro;
• inu simungakhoze kukhala aukali, ngakhale chipiriro ikutha.

Ngati ubale wa msewu, inu mukhoza kubwezeretsa wodwalayo, zimene anachita. Koma nthawi zina palibe kuchuluka kwa khama sangathe kuthetsa vutolo.

Monga sakhulupirira anthu zimakhudza miyoyo yawo

Ndi kovuta kuti adzathe kumanga ubale pankhani kusakhulupirira mu chikondi ndi banja moyo. Kusakhulupirika wawononga mogwirizana ndi masamba mabala akuya mu maganizo a m'chimbulimbuli kunyengedwa "amachepetsa". N'zosatheka kumata mtsuko wosweka kubisa ming'alu. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi mtima wa munthu. "Zimakhalapo ndi kuwonongeka" akhoza chobisika. Kuti kusalaza "seams" ndi kuchiritsa mabala m'maganizo, muyenera kwambiri chipiriro.

kusiyana The akadali kuchitika? Pankhaniyi, wolakwiridwayo msanga kachiwiri amalowa ubwenzi. Anakhudzidwa ndi awonera m'mbuyomo, mantha kukumana ndi chinyengo ndi kuvutika.

Nthawizina, basi ndi anataya banja kapena akutsanzikana ndi wachikondi munthu, tingathe kuona kuti kudalira n'kofunika kulankhula okondedwa. Kapena kubweretsa vutoli yovuta? Ndipotu, mungathe kupewa misozi ndi mavuto, zoipa ndi atamunamizira kuti amaphunzila kulemekeza anthu amene amakhulupirira ife.